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writes:Hi,I have a boyfriend who likes to watch girl on girl porn, but unlike him I hate it, it's wrong and version of porn and I know it's a sin. How do I help him understand how I feel about it and why it's so wrong because he seems to think it's perfectly fine and there's nothing wrong with watching it. PLEASE HELP because it's kind of ruining our relationship.
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reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (8 February 2008):
There is a misunderstanding that I would like to clear-up,when it comes to Porn. Adam's first Porn was a naked Eve,and I am sure that God didn't have to show Adam what to do with that naked woman,nor any of us men,as a matter of fact. As for getting his jollies, sexual arousal, from watching two naked woman making-out. Well Watching a man and a woman making-out isn't much different,as I see it,when it comes to so called sin. If one uses a Sex-Book to enhance their sexuality or the use of Porn on the Web to do the same thing. I see both of them as a sexual tool to both give and receive love within a loving,caring relationship,also the porn can be useful in spicing up a dull,marital sexuality. Lots of Men have taught themselves to come,ejaculate PDQ,too soon. And they need to unlearn their bad habit of coming long before she is ready to come,have her orgasm. So by watching porn,he can easily get an erection,and then keep his nice,firm erection as long as possible,and with his ongoing Masturbation he can relearn how to prolong his erection,so as to please her.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Hi,I dont hold up much hope for your relationship I'm afraid. the fact that you use the word "sin" is interesting. It is such a powerful word used by religious people to intone their deep objection to something they have been conditioned to believe. One person's sin is another person's hobby. What was considered sinful 50 years ago can be considered the norm today, its all subjective. If you cannot break down the barriers here I would suggest you seek someone with similar morals.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 This seems to be a common question on here at the moment. I think it's worth taking a look at the answers to this post from a girl earlier today:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/whats-your-opinion-about-porn.html
I think it's also useful to look at it from a blokes perspective so well worth taking a look at this post by a guy too:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-respond-sensibly-to-my-girlfriend.html
Read those. In summary, at the end of the day it is just porn and perfectly normal. If it's becoming an obsession then that would indicate there's a bigger problem there to do with your relationship.
Best of luck :)
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (6 February 2008):
 why dont you try and find a compromise...maybe try and persuade him not to watch it so much...or try and find him another porn he may like....
hope this helps
sparkii x
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