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writes:hey people just wanted to know what to do...i've been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but there's a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I keep getting the this gut feeling that shes tries to hide things about her past from me..for example she told me about this fling she had with someone which i didnt like to hear bt she said they didn't much more then just kiss..but for some reason ive tried to ask who it was a couple of times and she always tries to avoid answering the question its like i know the person..i understand she's doing it for my protection bt it's annoying at the same time as i feel like im going to lose trust in her..I don't think she realises that i have noticed her trying to hide it from. do i say something to her about it or just let it go?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 sorry to say mate, but I see it as you being very insecure.
Look at the posts these men put on here about being obsessed with their wives past relationships, you don't want to go down this road, it is full of incriminations and unhappiness and leads to nowhere.
Enjoy life, you are only on this planet once, and if you love your girlfriend love her for who she is now not what may have happened in the past .
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reader, Serinity  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 I would just let it go. Everyone has a past and she's already told you about the encounter. Does it really matter who it was? Maybe she's embarrassed about it. If you guys have a good relationship I wouldn't ruin it by causing trust issues due to insecurity. That shouldn't be a reason for you to stop trusting her. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): I think the reason she's trying to hide it from you is because she is ashamed that she did it in the first place. Girls are kind of sensitive about that kind of stuff. Also she probably doesn't like to talk about it because she knows that you don't like to hear about it. So it's up to you, you can say something to her but I can't guarentee that she'll fess up to who it was, but on the other hand my boyfriend has made me tell him who ive had past flings with and it was with someone that we both knew and after that I felt better that I got it off my chest so, you can ask her too. Whatever you do good luck and I hope I helped.
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reader, LouLee +, writes (6 February 2008):
 I understand how you feel but you shouldn't pressure her about it, she probably regrets it and past IS past. If she's trying to avoid it, then just let it be.
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