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writes:Ok, I want to know.I randomly thought of this today, and I wanted to hear everyones opinion on this, because I'm interested in what other people think.What, in your mind, is the loss of virginity?For girls:Is it breaking your hymen?Is it having someone elses fingers inside of you?Is it lost during anal?Or do you think it's during regular intercourse?For guys:When you sleep with someone, full intercourse, that you love?Or when you orgasm by the hand or mouth of someone else?I'm wondering what everyone's response will be, I want to see the mentality, and see if there's any common answers among certian age groups.(I considered becoming a therapist at one point, haha!)
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reader, daletom +, writes (1 October 2012):
Sounds like "champagne69" and her B/F experienced something similar to what my wife and I had when we gave each other our virginity on our wedding night. Yes, we had done pretty much "everything but intercourse" up to that point. Loss of virginity included the physical sensations of my naked penis breaking her hymen, then spreading her passage open; her vagina wrapped around my erection and stimulating it to release; and the contractions as my sperm spilled into her. It included the mental knowledge that what we were doing made babies, and the realization that our bodies wanted that even if our minds didn't. And it included the emotional effect of WANTING each other in this most intimate way; knowing that it hadn't been shared with anybody else; and would continue as long as we both lived. (Still going after 38 years.) There was blood and pain for her, and tears for both of us. In retrospect, physiologically rather lousy sex - but emotionally and mentally one of the most meaningful and significant events in either of our lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2011): Tricky one. After first bj (almost 17) but before first full penetrative intercourse (not long afterwards) I felt like sort of a half-virgin, definitely occupying a grey area. (Or pink, as my classmates would have said). Technically, person12345's definition is the one that would be almost universally accepted, though I'm not sure where it leaves homosexuals.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (7 November 2011):
Shadow Rose is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your guyses input! I love to hear what everyone thinks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2011): I guess it depends of if you define virginal as something physical or mental. I think it's a mental state of mind.
I want to answer differently from the majority. For me I feet like I lost my virginity before I ever had any male organs inside me (I'd used toys).
When I got around to having sex it wasn't exactly a new experience, I already knew what it felt like.
So if someone feels new and inexperienced and virginal, I think it's fair to say they still are no matter their experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011): I think it is any sexual act at all, because 'virginity' is all to do with purity and innocence, and a lack of sexual experience, so if you've been doing everything else sexual except breaking the actual hymen, I don't think you can really claim to be a virgin, but I think most people just decide for themselves if what they have done counts or not.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (6 November 2011):
Shadow Rose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto champange69: Aww, that's sweet! It's a romantic tale, and you're very lucky to have that experience! (Some females dont experience it like that, or so I've overheard from the very loud conversations around me at times)
And to everyone else:
Thank you for the input, it seems the mentality is mostly towards the same thing!
As to anyone who would like to answer but has a different opinion, please come out of hiding ^.^Your opinions and contributions are enjoyed too!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 Virginity is the penis entering the vagina, no matter for how long or how deep in. Penis inside vagina= no longer virgin. However, other acts are sexual acts, and "purity" or "inexperience" is something in itself. But strictly, a virgin has never had intercourse in the sense of a penis in a vagina. However, for homosexuals it's about a penis in the anus. And for lesbians I think it's a matter of having had anything inserted in your vagina. You can be sexually experienced and still a virgin, technically speaking. This used to be a very easy question, because when I was young you didn't have folks giving oral sex or hand jobs unless they were already in a sexual relationship...
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (6 November 2011):
only when you are penetrated by a penis in your vagina have you lost your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2011): Blowjobs are sort of gray areas but I think you can judge it based on context. A few blowjobs with a couple of committed partners is still pretty virginal. But having a dozen different casual blowjob partners means you are just staying a virgin by technicality and you definitely aren't a virgin in the spirit of the thing.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 What person12345 said.
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reader, champagne69  +, writes (6 November 2011):
I only just recently lost my virginity, I had waited til I found the right person, and have been in a relationship with him for eleven months. It was also his first time, and he had also wanted to wait for the right person.I had been fingered before, so it wasn't that. It wasn't the sense of my hymen breaking. I wasn't sure whether I was disappointed or not when it happened, I always knew I would lose it to my partner, I know I will be with him for a very long time, can definitely see us getting married, which made losing my virginity not such a big step in my life, it was more just a step in our relationship, he was my first and I can see him being my only, so it was a very big thing emotionally for me, but for instance, I didn't lose it to someone who wouldn't appreciate it and he was giving me his virginity as well, so it was a shared experience, and I couldn't have wished for anything more perfect in that sense.It hurt a lot the first time, but there was a moment when I could just feel him inside me, and all that went in my head was 'wow'. I didn't really have any thought on it, just, wow, it is just such an intimate moment and thing to do, I wasn't just having sex, I was making love, I knew there was a difference, and I'm so glad I have such a connection with my partner.It's actually taken a couple more times of having intercourse to really get my feelings about it sorted mentally. For me, it really is just so special because we both waited, we hadn't done it with anyone else, we are in a very stable relationship, and although we were already very intimate, sexual intercourse is just like, the most romantic, sensual, and intimate thing we can do for each other together. I can't really describe what the loss of virginity is though. For me, it was just something I knew was going to be very special to me and I wasn't about to give it away to anyone. And I didn't realise how special it was to me, til I gave it to the love of my life, and got his in return.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (6 November 2011):
 Virginity only has to do with penetration by a penis in a vagina.
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