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writes:Hi, i'm 15 years old and im not in any relationship, i've never been in a relationship before and i've never had sex, but the one thing im addicted to is masturbating. At first I always try and tell myself to stop but I end up doing it anyway and after masturbating I feel disgusted in myself. I know that its not disgusting and its completely normal and I shouldn't think like that but I do and I cant stop feelin disgusted and i have tried to stop feeling like that and i've tried to stop masturbating but i'm just not able to.Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, fulup8  +, writes (25 November 2008):
The long list of suggestions here on how not to masturbate is really a problem not a help.
Someone in your childhood and adolescence has told you that touching or rubbing your penis is wrong. In that case I guess you will have to give up peeing too.
There is nothing abnormal about masturbating. Even babies masturbate because it feels good down there. As you entered your teen period you now have many hormones in your blood system. They give you spontaneous erections. They also stimulate your brain to suggest you masturbate in order to ejaculate. Semen which contains sperm in the male fills the prostate gland. It seeks relief, something like the bladder telling you to pee. You will feel almost every day the need to empty out some of that semen. Also nerve endings in the shaft and especially in the head (glans) of your penis feel good when stroked. You are doing the normal thing. Just don't do it in public, "you will scare the horses" as the old joke goes. It is a private matter.
By the way I am a Protestant pastor. My sons and myself, when I was your age, have masturbated. You don't need to be guilty. It is just a step along the way to a happy marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey.. thanks to everyone that helped.. Gabriella Lopez freaked me out a bit, but like the others told me to ignore her i did as i didnt understand half of what she said.. but thanks to eveyone else x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): Ughhhhh Gabriella is clearly working on her next psycho bable self help book. Thats an example of "mental mastrubation" for any of you who are confused by her ramblings. What you are doing my young anonymous dear is far less offensive. Drop that blow hards advice and listen to some "real women".
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): gabriella lopez what's wrong with you? ignore her.
There's nothing wrong with what your doing, it's not disgusting and I have never thought of it in that way. Everyone does even if they lie and say they havent. Also don't worry about not having sex yet, your 15 and still very young.
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reader, gabriella lopez  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Well you should feel so sick of what your doing all people do it at least once in your life, so relax! I you really want to quit there 21 step I have found there just suggestions so not all of them you might want to do.Suggestions: 1. Pray daily, ask for the gifts of the Spirit, that which will strengthen you against temptation. Pray fervently and out loud when the temptations are the strongest. 2. Follow a program of vigorous daily exercise. The exercises reduce emotional tension and depression and are absolutely basic to the solution of this problem. Double your physical activity when you feel stress increasing. 3. When the temptation to masturbate is strong, yell _STOP_ to those thoughts as loudly as you can in your mind and then recite a prechosen Scripture or sing an inspirational hymn.It is important to turn your thoughts away from the selfish need to indulge. 4. Set goals of abstinence, begin with a day, then a week,month, year and finally commit to never doing it again.Until you commit yourself to _never again_ you will always be open to temptation. 5. Change in behavior and attitude is most easily achieved through a changed self-image. Spend time every day imagining yourself strong and in control, easily overcoming tempting situations. 6. Begin to work daily on a self-improvement program. Relate this plan to improving your Church service, to improving your relationships with your family, God and others. Strive to enhance your strengths and talents. 7. Be outgoing and friendly. Force yourself to be with others and learn to enjoy working and talking to them. Use principles of developing friendships found in books such as_How to Win Friends and Influence People_ by Dale Carnegie. 8. Be aware of situations that depress you or that cause you to feel lonely, bored, frustrated or discouraged. These emotional states can trigger the desire to masturbate as away of escape. Plan in advance to counter these low periods through various activities, such as reading a book, visiting a friend, doing something athletic, etc. 9. Make a pocket calendar for a month on a small card. Carry it with you, but show it to no one. If you have a lapse of self control, color the day black. Your goal will be to have _no black days_. The calendar becomes a strong visual reminder of self control and should be looked at when you are tempted to add another black day. Keep your calendar up until you have at least three clear months. 10. A careful study will indicate you have had the problem at certain times and under certain conditions. Try and recall,in detail, what your particular times and conditions were.Now that you understand how it happens, plan to break the pattern through counter activities. 11. In the field of psychotherapy there is a very effective technique called _aversion therapy_. When we associate or think of something very distasteful with something which has been pleasurable, but undesirable, the distasteful thought and feeling will begin to cancel out that which was pleasurable. If you associate something very distasteful with your loss of self-control it will help you to stop the act. For example, if you are tempted to masturbate, think of having to bathe in a tub of worms, and eat several of them as you do the act. 12. During your toileting and shower activities leave the bathroom door or shower curtain partly open, to discourage being alone in total privacy. Take cool brief showers 13. Arise immediately in the mornings. Do not lie in bed awake,no matter what time of day it is. Get up and do something.Start each day with an enthusiastic activity. 14. Keep your bladder empty. Refrain from drinking large amounts of fluids before retiring. 15. Reduce the amount of spices and condiments in your food.Eat as lightly as possible at night. 16. Wear pajamas that are difficult to open, yet loose and not binding. 17. Avoid people, situations, pictures or reading materials that might create sexual excitement. 18. It is sometimes helpful to have a physical object to usein overcoming this problem. A Book of Mormon, firmly held in hand, even in bed at night has proven helpful in extreme cases. 19. In very severe cases it may be necessary to tie a hand to the bed frame with a tie in order that the habit of masturbating in a semi-sleep condition can be broken. This can also be accomplished by wearing several layers of clothing which would be difficult to remove while half asleep. 20. Set up a reward system for your successes. It does not have to be a big reward. A quarter in a receptacle each time you overcome or reach a goal. Spend it on something which delights you and will be a continuing reminder of your progress. 21. Do not let yourself return to any past habit or attitude patterns which were part of your problem. _Satan Never Gives Up_. Be calmly and confidently on guard. Keep a positive mental attitude. You can win this fight! The joy and strength you will feel when you do will give your whole life a radiant and spiritual glow of satisfaction and fulfillment.
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reader, penta +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Here is some great information about masturbation: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masturbation
It has some great sections, including "frequency, age & sex," "evolutionary purpose," and "health & psychological effects: benefits" -- I found it really informative and think it would help you.
The basic underlying theme is that a majority of women do it and that there are health benefits to doing it. So keep up the good work!
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (29 August 2007):
 hey hun, everyone at your age is touching themselves and getting them selves off, even older guys do it even when they have someone to have sex with, but it is better that you are getting yourself off instead of going out and having sex and becomming a parent at age 15. The only reason you keep constly thinking that it is disgusted is because you keep telling yourself that it is, when you convince yourself of something you will belive it all the time, dont worrie about it just think of other things like why you like it and keep telling yourself that it is normal and it is ok to do it convice yourself of that instead of the negative. well good luck
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (29 August 2007):
 okay it may sound disgusting and make you feel it....but like you said its completely normal, and maybe it is a good thing you're doing things like this now, nothing else....because as you're underage, it is illegal to have sex. Your hormones are raging all over the place as said before and maybe this is the reason why you feel "disgusting" as you put it.......Good LuckI hope it gets sorted...xxxx
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reader, duce00 +, writes (29 August 2007):
 I dont think it sounds like sex addiction just raging hormones. Hopefully you will find some contentment with touching yourself and not look for somebody else to do it quite yet. What your doing is rather common. Im sure that the ladies here can put your mind at ease. Heres the ones I know and trust just off the top of my head.
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