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writes:I have a problem, I've been in love with my best friend for quite sometime now and i told him i had feelings for him, but he says he's not into dating. we have messed around before and kissed too but i can't tell if he has some hidden feelings. every chance to go out with a girl he gets, he just passes it up. he used to play around and tickle me and we do some horse play and he does nice things for me without asking and just overall is so nice and caring about me. please tell me i'm not the only one who thinks he has some feelings for me. he once said he was scared to be serious and date cause he doesn't know whether he's gay bi or straight, and now he says he's bi
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reader, lil ladyy  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 well your told him how you feel what els can you do ?? don't push it or you might push him away and he sounds like a good mate to you and maybe in the future you might turn into something more ...
he might just not want to addmit he is gay just yet he might say he is bi bt allso mght need time to get used to it all soo giv him the time and see how it goes but do let him kno you cant wait around forever .... cuz it sounds like he does like you bt is that just as a mate ?? anyway hope it does work out for you bbe ... good luck .x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): I think he probably does have feelings for you, and cares about you. But he is confused about his sexuality, and it seems that he is trying to figure this out. He has told you he is scared of being serious, and not into dating at the moment. So he may just want to be friends, until he feels more confident about his sexual orientation.
However, this must be confusing and painful for you. He gives you a lot of signs of his feelings for you, then says he doesn't want to date. Have you told him how difficult you are finding it? Maybe it might be best if he backs off a little bit with the affection he shows you, so as not to confuse you more.
Ultimately though, I think you may have to try and accept that right now, he only wants to be friends. If you find it hard to deal with that, then it might be a good idea to try and spend a little less time with him. He may decide to try dating at some point. But in the meantime, I think there isn't much else you can do if he doesn't want to date. But in answer to your question, then yes, I do think he cares about you. x
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