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Why do I still feel so alone and worthless despite being surrounded by people that love me?

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Question - (5 February 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 25 May 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have a boyfriend,friends and family that all love me...but why is it that i still feel so alone and worthless?

I dont think any of them know whats really going on with me, I've told my boyfriend plenty of times that i feel alone and maybe he could up the love a little bit but he just says that i just want to be around him 24/7 and thats why i think im alone and worthless, My best friend lives 30 miles away and she has enough problems so i'm not going to cry to her and expect her to make everything better and my other friends are totally different people then i am, they have nice clothes and cars and sometimes when im around that group of people i feel more worthless and they tend to make me feel out of place like im not supposed to be around them. I try and make my home a nice place with my sister and my mother but i dont think they know me at all i dont think nobody knows me....I feel super depressed some days i just sit in my room and cry in the same clothes from the day before, i dont know how this happened but it wont seem to go away. I reley on food alot and ive recently found out that i now weigh 138 food is the only thing that makes things better and its never going to judge me. Maybe i just need someone to talk to...please help!

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A female reader, Marinegirl8 United States +, writes (25 May 2010):

Hey. Don't cry I can imagine you curled up in a little ball your cries muffled by the blanket actually I can't really see what I'm writing because tears are brimming my eyes. You remind me so much of me. I feel lost around my friends sometimes and my best friend is slowly drifting away and I don't know what to do. Plus she has gotten a scholarship to a school that's for really smart people she's leaving after eight grade and I- this makes me feel bad about saying this- can't wait for her to go. That's the thing that drives me everyday one more year one more summer and that's it. Though what I visualize as "thats it" I can't be sure whether our relationship will just end or keep going. Plus the other girls in my group barley know me they know me through a friend. All of them are funny and I'm not they all have places in the group the sarcastic one, the peppy one, the smart one, the boy crazy one. I don't know what I am or how I make the people around me laugh. When I say stuff they don't listen. Plus now I read at lunch because I don't know what to talk about and lie and say when they ask me to talk is " This is a really good book.... Maybe later?" Though I'm lying and it sucks. I also eat comfort food I just came home and cried for a little and then ate some ice cream and cookies with some milk. Its really bad what were doing- this comfort eating. We shouldn't do that its bad for our health. Instead we should do some exercise. Also hold on it isn't so bad. There are worse people out there. You could be fearing for your life everyday not knowing if tommorow would be our last day or if they would go asleep and not wake up.

Hold on. Things will get better a true friend will come along and throw you a rope then you'll start your climb back up.

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A female reader, SleeplessLullaby United Kingdom +, writes (5 February 2010):

SleeplessLullaby agony auntI'm so much like you. I agree with Anonymous NF - change your routine. I got bored at one point of seeing my friends and boyfriend too much, and now I always complain to them that I don't see them enough. I really wish that I could see more of them, and when I don't for ages, I cry too. What makes me happy is if I go downstairs and talk to family about anything that pops into my mind (music, what's in the news, anything). And then just have a nice warm drink :-)

Hope things get better for both of us x

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