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*allgirl22
writes:I need help... I really like this man that is married. And i can tell he likes me too. I have never told this man. Cause i know hes married. And im not the type of person to break up someones home... I think about him all the time. Please help. Do i keep this to myself and not tell him???? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 December 2009):
 What good will come of you telling him how you feel?
Are you willing to be a "thing" on the side? Always coming last? Sharing a man with someone else? Even if he does feel the same way that you do, he might not be prepared to leave his wife and if he is, how long to think it will take for him to find a replacement for you?
Sorry. Stick to your morals and values and listen to your gut instincts.
If you can not "just" be friends with this man, cut the contact. It isn't healthy.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (17 December 2009):
 You know that pursueing or telling him would be wrong, that's why you're here. Are you waiting for us to tell you it's ok to have an affair as long as you really love him and vice versa? He's married, there's nothing you can do, so remove the temptation and look for an unvailable guy!
~Sy
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): If you "know" he's married and "you're not the type to break up someone's home", then it's a dead end if you decide to pursue him. Go meet new people and hang out with friends and family and try to control your thoughts about this married man. I used to date a guy that I really liked even though I knew he had a girlfriend, it got to the point where he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted me to be his girlfriend. I got what I wanted but instead I said no to him because there is a good chance he will go into that pattern again. Good Luck! :-)
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reader, Ballgirl22 +, writes (17 December 2009):
Ballgirl22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, so much everyone for ur help! =))
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): As Eyes said +1.
When I was single there were a couple of married women who I liked too. There were a couple of single and married women who I liked since I've been married. None of them ever knew it or at least I never said it. It seemed like 1 or 2 also liked me and never said it either. This happens to most of us at times throughout our lives and we just have to keep it to ourselves.
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reader, jthomas +, writes (17 December 2009):
Keep it to yourself. Telling him would be selfish on your part, he is married. Someone else loves him very much, enough to promise themself to him for the rest of their life. He may also have children, would you want to be at fault for a child to not have daddy around?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Yep you keep it to yourself and you also keep being the type of person who doesn't break up someone's home.
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