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writes:I honestly don't know what to do! My ex boyfriend who I dated for a year and broke up with because he cheated on me with one of my close friends and one of his ex's. Also because I found out he would flirt with a bunch of girls and his exgirlfriends. When I broke up with him he said he was really going to change etc etc but I decided to not even talk to him because I had found out he was still flirting with other girls. So we didn't talk in the whole summer. We got to a point where I told him okay I'll be his friend but that's it. Now since the beginning of this school year he hasn't left me alone, texting every day, calling every day he has even gained the trust of my whole family and all this has happened after we broke up. Now my mom and sisters all care for him. I told him to maintain the distance because this we were too close and we had to move on. He obviously payed no attention after that he has begged me, cried me, gotten on knees telling me that he's not going to give up and will do anything to get back with me and That truly truly everything will change. That his dream is to get back with me, that he misses me, that he wants to make me the happiest girl in the world etc and I honestly and even my sisters believe he has really changed, but the problem now is me! I don't know if I should try it again, I don't feel that same love as before but I do care for him and I do feel good when I'm around him. I know that if I do go back with him people will judge me and say "I can't believe she went back with him" etc not all of them but some. The last few days he has been calling me every 3 hours or less! Please help me ! What should I do ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm still thinking about what I will do , but thanks all for the advice .
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): I say you leave him alone. Where were his feelings other than in his penis when he was doing these girls! I'm sorry but the truth hurts. Trust is something you have to earn with me, you weren't born with it. That's just me. Like they say, once a cheat always a cheat. If you can't trust him, your relationship will never be the same. You are young, move on. Nobody needs to put up with that or somebody they can't trust. You deserve better. Don't sell yourself short.
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reader, foxy7727 +, writes (16 March 2009):
 im sorry i disagree with the last person no matter what he does now will not change what he did sure hes sorry and hes making it clear but nothing he says or does will take back what he already did. trust is everything in a relationship and without it its just not going to work is u truely think he will never cheat on u again and trust him 100 percent then sure take him back and if u have any worries that he'll just do it again then dont give him a second chance because chances are its not gonna work out.
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reader, lizzyb  +, writes (16 March 2009):
Sounds like he's doing all the grand gestures which obviously shows he is really interested. If you still have feelings for him go for it. But take it really really really slowly. Say you need to trust him again, start off as friends. If he really wants you back he'll do this for you. I have an ex atm who seems to be saying all the right things but not doing anything about it. This sounds like a guy who is backing up his words with his actions which is a good thing. you're very young though so be careful, you should be taking things very slowly anyways.
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