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writes: I have a girlfriend who is a virgin and I think she is ready to lose her virginity to me but she said I must first tell her why she should lose her virginity to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, AbiiBabes  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 Hii babes.
Say to your girlfriend,
"babe, i love you soo much, i just want to feel your body close to mine, with your soft and tender skin"
something like that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): (expletive deleted: Moderator) Sex should be a consensual thing. DO NOT attempt to get your girlfriend to "cave." It's rape, in one form or another. You both need to communicate verbally when you're ready and talk about why you shouldn't as well as why you should. I came here looking for advice but I will pass on what I have been told by close friends. Having sex makes everything, every emotion, problem, feelings (good or bad), it makes these twice as strong. Giving your virginity to someone you love makes you very attached that person. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): Man, i hear ya, dont act straight off the line. You wont get what you want, most girls will say to give it time and she will tell you when your ready, gotta use your head, dont think with you dick. Keep it kool, get her relaxed with you for a couple weeks then slowly move on. If she still doesnt feel up to it tell her ok, i will hold off, or something of the sort, dont get her thinking your only out for sex, thats what most girls think nowadays. You have to get her completely comforatble with you secual actions, kissing, all that good shit, whens she comfortbale, then move slowly again and just keep repeating until she gives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): this is no easy matter and if its just sex you want then she deserves better, sex to me is the very symble of love and in order to give a true answer i'd need more info. I'm a love doc and if you are sincere about your love and it's love that you want to express then you need to make your girl feel confortable with you. she is a virgin and so needs to know that your thinking with your heart and not your penis; there are many ways to do this but i warn you if you don't mean it she will catch you out. 1st show her you truly love her with an honest compliment but this is just step 1 you need to start slow i assume you kiss her so take her out for an evining leave enough time and go back to hers or yours and give her a suprise gift ''something classy'' then start with a warm hug and sway from side to side softley, start off slow with a kiss as you lower your hands gently smile and sit her on the edge of a bed tell her that you want her to be confortable and that you love her AND MEAN IT then tell her that if she wants then she can tell you when to stop, then make a move to the next base dim the lights and preferably have romantic music playing take it slow and don't seem desperate and don't rush because she'll think your only out for one thing she needs to know you care
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): Tell her you love her
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (19 September 2005):
"I LOVE YOU" ?? Good enough?
I agree with the other answers..
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (7 August 2005):
I'm down with most of the answers here. She's answering a question with a question, which is just to throw you off and get you off the subject, so I would interpret that as "no, I don't want to now, I don't know when I want to, but if I tell you straight off then you might break up with me and that thought makes me insecure so I'll just buy time with a line you'll never figure out", or something along those lines. I know I'm a dude and no psychologist but we all know most people don't say what they mean in an uncomfortable situation. Looks like you have to deal, or leave her and find someone without the issue, because I don't think there's a right answer to that question that will get her to hop into bed with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2005): So you think you are the "chosen" one, do you? Better think again, guy. From a woman's standpoint..she's asking to come back to her "with a damn good answer" to justify why you want to take something from her that she holds precious and dear to herself as a woman-her virginity. In other words, she ain't gonna give it up that easy to you or anyone else. She chooses when..she chooses with whom.
Hats off to her...she possesses self-pride and strength..admirable qualities so many teen girls lack, nowadays.
If you are in any way pressuring her to have sex with you ask why you are doing it. For your own pure selfish motives, perhaps? Sounds like she is a smart cookie and has clued into this unseemly personality trait of yours.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (5 August 2005):
If shes asking that then shes still not 100% sure she wants to so I would leave it for now, besides, why should you have to justify something like that???????
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2005): If she is saying that, she is not ready.
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reader, Mom_forever +, writes (5 August 2005):
A subject like virginity is not taken lightly. You need to be carful how to apporach this subject. Don't rush it. And speak from your heart and when the time is right it will happen. Good Luck !
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reader, twiglet +, writes (5 August 2005):
Are you kidding? Only she can know when she's ready to lose her virginity - no one else, not even you, can know that. Why are you in such a hurry? (apart from the obvious). If she's not sure, don't pressure her. If you rush her into it she might regret it forever and resent you in the future, and I'm sure you wouldn't want that. If you love her and/or care about her surely you should be happy to spend time with her, talk about it and take things slowly. If you're the right person, the time will come.
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