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writes:Hi,Me and my girlfriend were dating for about a month and a half. There were many reasons for me to be somewhat untrusting of her because she has cheated on me twice. But the first time it happened i had no proof but i had A witness. She said that she couldnt remember what exactly had happened that night and that she never believed it happened. But i never got a yes or no answer from her, just "i was to drunk to remember". But i ignored my gut instinct and stayed with her, i guess it was because i loved her. Then a few months later she went on a trip to mexico with her mother.I feared of somehting happenign again and made her very aware of that, she assured me that everythign woudl be ok and that she loves me, she even cried because she was leaving me for a week. But The moment she got back i knew something was up, like that she had done something with another man. I just could sense it somehow. I never said anything to her though, because i wanted to believe i could trust her. She broke it off with me the next day she got home and right then i knew somethign happened... Unfortunately after a month of being broken up we got back together for another month because im an idiot or an "idiot in love". but besides the fact eversince she first cheated on me i changed towards her, i didnt trust her fully, which had an impact on our relationship. i guess i kinda started laying boundries such as, no going to clubs with out me( i also went to one with her for the first time together and found her grinding on guys), no contact with the guy she cheated with on me (which come on! if you wanna be with me then we have to forget about him, right?), and no sleeping at partys. So is it her fault that i was the way i was? and do i deserve another chance? and does she even deserve another chance? should i still be her friend? (she wants to)please help me quick i need advice. Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Thank you both very much!
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reader, gayuncleandy  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 She may want to be your friend, but she knows that this will lead to another installment in your relationship. Stay away from her, not because she is a bad person, but because she is not right for you. If you do RISK a relationship with her again, maybe it would be an idea to confront her about her problem drinking.
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reader, sweetheart03  +, writes (14 May 2008):
Do your best to get over her now! She cheated and shows she can't be loyal to you. So its better to handle this now then two or three years later when its been like 10 times or she gets pregnat by someone else. You can find a girl who loves and respects you. And who you can trust on a night out with the girls or a weekend away! Once you lose trust it take time to gain it back! Just move on and find that girl who is the one for you...don't keep her waiting. Good luck
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