A
female
age
36-40,
*oah
writes:I've recently found myself in a rather sticky situation. This is concerning the man I have been seeing for last 5 months. Its recently become quite serious and we have mutually agreed to be monogamous with one another. However, I find myself doubting my full feelings toward him, he's a lovely man, wonderful personality, driven, treats me so well, etc. and I am definitely attached to him emotionally. That being said, I have yet to find myself attracted to him physically. Yes, I do think he's quite cute, he's physically fit and healthy, blued eyed and blonde. He possesses attractive features, yet I'm not overly attracted to him. I don't understand my own feelings regarding this. He is by no means ugly, and our personalities jive so well, so i wish to continue the relationship, but will this come back to bite me in future? Im unsure if the fact that my luke warm attraction to him physically will doom our relationship.Any thoughts or advice will be greatly appreciated! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, SeXylOvE12  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 Have you been physical with him and found that you still aren't attracted to him? Because if that's the case i would really question the success of this relationship. Speaking for myself, physical attraction is important in a serious relationship. If you settle down with this man would you be tempted to cheat if he's not turning you on? I think i probably would.
If you really want to try and make it work i have a suggestion. Try being overenthusiastic about it. It'll turn him on and you may have a good time. Often times when people do this several times the "over" enthusiasm turns into plain enthusiasm. You may find yourself being attracted to him!
Hope i helped!
|
