A
female
age
26-29,
*reezyReezeXD
writes:Dear Cupid, (puncuation may be off, but i'm getting to the point)about a month ago this amazing guy breaks up with me, i cheated on him 7 months before this happened, but, as a subconscious way of getting back at him for his cheating (no excuse though, it was wrong. period.) and we hurt each-other a lot, we did need a break up, but... I didn't want the break up forever...He went through my computer and found pictures of the guy i cheated on him with, but i was only hanging out with him as a friend, my other friends were with as well, but he also found i had been flirting quite strongly with a guy who lives up in Canada (keep in mind I live in America) and he broke up with me for it all, i can understand why, but he's playing games with me it seems, he tells me he doesn't know if he will ever want to be together but he will let me get closer to him (emotionally) which seems like a contradiction all itself.I told him I've changed and a lot of important things and that he would never have to worry, I swore this on my his life. I'm just so confused, people tell me if i completely blocked him from my life, he would miss me, but, my heart is afraid to let me do this... I don't know how to take it all in, i'm starting to believe he just isn't interested in me anymore... but yet he seems to want me in his life... :/ help :/
View related questions:
a break, broke up, flirt, period Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 November 2011):
I don't think you two can actually work anyway. You've both cheated on each other, and neither of you have actually worked together to make it work. When he cheated, he proved himself as untrustworthy. You then had a choice - you could have left or you could have worked together to fix it. You didn't do either, and you wound up cheating on him. Then you wound up flirting with some other guy. So he didn't just find one thing that was wrong, he then found two things. And I'm afraid that two wrongs do NOT make a right at all. The truth of this situation is - you two are both untrustworthy, you were both wrong, neither of you worked with the other to fix this, and you are both a bit too immature to really understand what you're dealing with. This relationship isn't realistically going to work out whatever happens, and I think you'd be better cutting him out on the basis that you'll be able to move on to someone who won't be so untrustworthy, and who you'll commit to and work with rather than cheat on. Also, as to whether he's interested - it sounds like he's not. It sounds like he's just out to play games. Time to move on. And please learn from this - no cheating, no flirting with men in Canada, no nothing. If you want a relationship to work, put effort into it.
|
