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writes: dear cupidi am having a problem, i seem to say stupid stuff and everyone laughs at me, my other problem is that i am scared and do not have the braveness to stand up to people so in the process people end up calling me names and make fun of me. is their anyway i can make people respect me without fighting or making myself be big? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Well my advice would be to learn to laugh at yourself. I remember being really shy and people would laugh if I blushed (bright red btw!!) but now that I am older and more confident I have learnt to laugh with others and laugh at myself...eeerrr....well some of the time!!! lol!
As missmel said I do think that it is important for you to gain some self-esteem. Try to be confident, but don't get as brash as those who end up calling you names cos thats just harsh. Come out of your shell and find the real you.
Good luck x x x
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Oh dear, reading this brought all my highschool years back.
I was the quirky arty girl, who thought it was perfectly fine to wear doc martins and daisys in my hair to school. And whenever I opened my mouth people thought I was just weird.
Infact some people still do!
I developed this ability to poke fun at myself before anyone else had a chance to. Inevitably, I used to always have people laughing at me.
So, in short I get what your saying. But basically, having people respect you comes from respecting yourself. Trying not to be so concerned with how people see you, living your life to the beat of your own drum. If we spend our life trying to conform to what we "think" people want us to be like will never get respect, because we aren't honouring who we really are.
Self respect is a wonderful thing. It lifts you up, gives you courage, purpose, honour. The greatest people who have walked this earth have genrally been mocked, but they believed in who they were and held their head up high.
I think that as I've aged, I'm still the same quirky person, I still have people laugh at me when I'm ditzy and I say the wrong things.....but I know, in my small close circle of friends and family I am respected, because these people know who I truly am, and thats why they love me.
Find your passion and make a difference with it.
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