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female
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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for just over six months. The thing is people still can't really deal with us as a couple. It sounds silly but people won't come over and talk to us if we are together, or if we talk to them they tend to make excuses and leave. It is fine if we are with a big group of people but if there is only a few this tends to happen. Now my boyfriend and I know that it could be weird and people could feel like the 'third-wheel' if they were with us, but we specifically try and act as un-couply as possible in these situations (so it is not as if we were all over each other and ignoring the other people). Next year we are moving out of our uni halls and into houses with different groups of people. I am worried that - as we will spend a fair amount of time at each other's houses - that this will be awkward.Can we do anything to stop this happening? It's not as if we could just not spend time with each other/only see each other in private.Sorry if this is not very clear.Any advice would be appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Skeez +, writes (15 June 2007):
 Hello there hun.
I can understand that this is hurting you and making you feel rather rejected from your friends. Maybe having a chat with them will make them understand that you need your friends aswell as your boyfriend.
I understand you feel as though you are the 'outside party', but communicating with them on your own, will hopefully make a big difference. Talk to them without your partner and ask them why they are acting this way.
Also try and get your partner to tlk to his friends and ask whats going on. If both sides come togetehr everything will work out.
Good luck to you hun
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): Hi darling,
Why on earth, are you worried about what other people think of you two.... Are you happy? If that is a big yes then let the people who cant cope with your relationship get on with there own lives, If that were me id snog the face of my man.... (but thats me and my sense of humour!!!!) Ive come to the stage in my life when if someone doesnt like or objects to something that i do i block it out... kindness and caring as long as im nice to people which i am and not hurting anyone which i would never go out of my way to do, and im sure you dont do that.
So dont worry so much enjoy your life and relationship have as much fun as you want dont let others make you feel awkward... HAVE A FAB TIME!! Take care of both of you xxxx
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