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writes: Im 19 years old girl.its been good 4 years that im dating .i really love him.my boyfriend has been really restrictive in the past may be because of which i have become the same. now i dont even like his best friend who keeps misguiding him,and now when my guy is out with him i dont like it. this guy came into his life after me. i dont even have any true friend. my sisters say im too suffocating and he may leave me soon but i cant live without him...please tell me what to do? should i take it easy and let him do wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): hi love,
You are i think right when you say your boyfriend being restictive in the past is making you feel this way now,
what is he doing thats wrong? you need to be able to trust him to have a healthy relationship sweety.
Give him a chance to have a little time out with his friend, and hun take this opportunity to make some friends of your own. and then you will both have other interests and something to talk about with each other, Your relationship will be stronger if the trust is there for the both of you.
Take this chance to have some fun even with your sister hope it works out for you take care xxxxxxx
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reader, NuVu +, writes (15 June 2007):
I agree with your sister and the previous reviewer. You're trying to control him, and the more we try to control someone the more miserable it makes us, cause it just doesn't work.
Should you let him do wrong? Yes of course. I mean you can express your feelings and point out where he is going wrong, but he is a man with free will and he needs to make his own choices in life and live with the consequences.
Stop obesessing about him and his friends and focus more on your own life, hopes and dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): Hunwhat is he going to do thats wrong? How is his friend misguiding him? If you have total trust in your relationship, this guy shouldnt be a threat to you. You sound very insecure. Maybe you need to find a girlfriend to hang out with, instead of having to be with your man so much. Its healthy for a couple to have their own friends, and hobbies! Id have to agree with you sisters....guys need their space.
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