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*onderlove19
writes:Hiya. This is more of a work issue than a relationship one, but still a big one.See, recently I started working as a waitress in my uncles hotel, and word got out to some of the other waiters about the fact that the owner of the hotel is related to me. I only found out today that someone I get on really well with is being nice to me because she thinks she can get ahead through me. I dont know who to trust. I get on well with all of the people I work with, but now I cant help feeling like they're just pretending to like me because of my uncle. Its so unfair though because I had to go through an interview just like everyone else and I've been working really hard, and still I cant shake the fact that Im most likely being treated differently because of my connection. Im so depressed, seeing as I spend most of my time at work now, and with those people. How do I deal with this issue? I love my job but I hate that I'm being treated specially because of my uncle. Please help.
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reader, wonderlove19 +, writes (13 December 2008):
wonderlove19 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all! Really helpful advice :) xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): Don't do poorly in your job, always be on time and camouflage your mistakes like all others do, as if you can't afford to lose this job. In short, behave as if you are not bestowed any favours, there is not much more you can do. Some might even appreciate that you are not careless and carefree. Don't excel either, simply don't be different.
As for the fact you are treated specially, and you probably mean fake smiles and the alike, don't let this disturb you too much and rather take it as an advantage. At least you won't have peevish coworkers raising their voices at you too soon. In time, you will get to know them better seeing how they are treating each other and their work. You can as well make friends in your spare time, don't fuss about that. What is important at work is that you maintain a good colleagueship so that you can properly collaborate in work matters. Don't expect much more than that even at a common workplace, where the boss is not your relative!
Ultimately, just be happy to have a job! All the best!
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (13 December 2008):
First off you go to work to make money not friends. Forget these people if you know they are being nice to you because of your uncle then do what you have to do as far as your job and stay your distance from them people. Like my mom always told me feed people with a long handled spoon.
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