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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone... My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we do really love each other :), but her older sister who's now twenty did something maybe some would consider rather silly. She had unprotected sex with her boyfriend, she got pregnant, he wanted an abortion, she said no despite not being entirely wealthy, he abused her verbally, she broke up with him...Now, however, despite all this, this has affected me and my girlfriend more socially (not what we say to each other but what others say to us about our relationship). We're both getting constant from funny jokes from friends that it's our turn next and that if we do we should do the smart thing and wear a condom...Now my girlfriend and I want to do the mature thing and not have sex for a while however there is the matter of peer pressure, and we know that our friends are just being silly and having a laugh but in all of these recent events, everything is becoming so confusing. What do you think we should do?
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Well if you and your girlfriend both want to wait a while before having sex, then that's what you should do. It's not as if you're having to handle the peer pressure on your own, I assume she's getting it too, so if you both stick together on this one and ignore everyone else it should stop being such a problem.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Hey,
If your girlfriend wants to wait a while, then let her, until it all blows over, it may just be friends having a joke, but if she or you or both of you are feeling uncomfortable about it, then don't give them anything to laugh about.
It's obviously a good thing that you are using protection, but remember, these are not 100% effective, as I'm sure you know.
Just do what you feel is more comfortable for you both, if she wants to wait, then wait until she feels comfortable again.
I really hope this helps.
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