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writes:Ok, I'm in love with my cousin. The morals n what not, the 'family' issues don't bother me. What I want to know, is how to break it to him? We talk almost everyday texting. And lately he's been calling me everyday, having phone conversations with me for over an hour each night. I think I've droped some hints to him. Like I say, that I am hopelessly in love with the one person I can't have. Or, I can't tell the guy I like him, because of I'm afraid of wait he might say, or lose our closeness. But, I don't think he's gotten to it. Is their any other way to tell him, maybe more sutble then "Hey, I'm in love with you." ... He's kind of a hopelss romantic, so maybe something romantic.. but like what..? Please help me. As if it were'nt confusing enough, with just the basis...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): If he's been calling you every night and you've been talking for over an hour each time, I'd say he's pretty keen on you too.
Did he call you and talk for more than an hour before you dropped hints, or after? If after, I'd say he took the hint!
I never was very good at subtlety, and men in general find it difficult to read between the lines, so you have to make it clear what you're trying to tell him.
How about "You know, I used to think I was in love with you - did you ever feel the same way about me?" If he says yes, you can then go on to tell him you only thought you were then, but you KNOW you are now. That's the kind of approach that leaves him in no doubt what you mean, but you gradually lead up to it. Take a deep breath before asking him.
Anyone who has been in love with a cousin will know it's a whole lot different and far more intense than being in love with the guy/girl around the corner.
Best of luck!!
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reader, Mushgirl  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Only you know your cousin, and I assume you know him pretty well from the amount of time you spend talking to him. He may feel the same, on the other hand it may be a huge shock for him. So approach this with caution.
I can talk to my own male cousin about most things - sex, relationships, etc, but I am not in any way attracted to him and if I was I think he'd run a mile. Not that I'm saying the same about your cousin, but you must be prepared for him to be a bit gobsmacked at the least.
Whatever you decide to do, I wouldn't recommend telling him that you're hopelessly in love with him or anything to that effect quite yet, as most guys would find that a bit heavy to start with. Maybe next time you see him, try complimenting him or something. Like tell him he looks good in that shirt, or his hair looks cool today, something of that ilk. Watch his reaction and try flirting with him. It doesn't have to be unromantic, just don't present him with a ring quite yet!
Anyway I hope it goes well. Mushgirl xxx
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