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writes:I have been with my "fiance" for over a year now. When we met he informed me of his situation, that he was divorced with 3 children and that he wanted to be with me, marry me etc. Fast forward to now, I am now pregnant with his child and long story short, since being pregnant I have noticed a few inconsistencies that made me question his honesty. I ended up looking through his phone and emails and besides the fact he has been flirting with both his colleagues and "female friends" online, I found he is actually still married to his wife, but NOW seeking information on how to get a divorce. I have already confronted him on it and he continues to lie to my face, gets extremely defensive and says I must have read it wrong. It could be worse, but I am still so angry that he lied to me. It could have changed a lot, I don't know that I would have still gotten pregnant knowing he wasn't technically divorced yet. Now I feel stuck, like I can't trust him. Does anyone have any advice please? Thanks in advance...
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Yes, dump him immediately and seek legal advise, you may be able to get him on false pretences, breach of promise, as well as some sort of spousal maintenance, and once the baby is born maintenance of course.
As for his still lying to your face, just shut the door on him, dont listen to his lines,this man is not worth you spending even a further five minutes on, shut him out and get on with building a life for you and your child.
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reader, angelalb  +, writes (9 October 2010):
I feel for you. I would go to his and tell her. He is not being far to you her the unborn child, or his kids. I would defenetly not stay with him and I would take him to court for child support if you decide to keep the baby that is. He is not trustworthy and you will always question his truth if you stay with him. Sounds like he is confused and does not know what he wants. Good Luck to you. Daniele
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