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writes:I've just asked a recent question about this same problem but things are seeming to get a little out of hand. So... i recently sent some naughty texts to my boyfriend, my mum checked my phone because she said she knew something was going on, she then saw the texts, she then told my dad. I was surprised because none of them seemed angry. My mom came into my room yesterday morning while i was still asleep and told me to sit up because she needed to speak to me. Then she asked what was going on with me and my boyfriend about sex, i said nothing and then she said no, i've seen your messages. Yesterday she was totally normal, then i was talking to my dad on Facebook last night and he asked why i was spending so much time with my boyfriend. He also said the only reason they're worried about me is because they don't want me to do something i will regret, or get hurt. After that i thought hmm everything's ok, but later my mum came in my room and said my uncle is going to be coming tomorrow to stay with me so i don't go anywhere. She also took my phone away from me because i changed the pin number. I broke up with my boyfriend because i thought it would be best for now until things cool down. Have i done the right thing? and what can i do about my parents? Any advice will be appreciated, thanks.
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou, my mum did say she was going to go round to his house but she didnt pheew
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reader, ilanah tromans +, writes (3 August 2011):
 this is exactly what happened to me but i wasnt even going out with the boy my mum and dad see messages from, my mum went round the boys house and everything... so embarrassing, but i guess your parents are just being protective of you because they don't want you to make any mistakes, you done the right thing breaking up with your boyfriend for the time being until you earn your trust back, it will all work out in the end!
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (3 August 2011):
Rebeccaa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 August 2011):
 Your parents are being protective of you. They are not angry because we all went through this and unluckily some people make bad mistakes. They understand this is a part of growing up but it only takes a condom to break to change the course of your life.
It's hard to say if you have done the right thing by breaking up because thinking back when I was 16 or 17 I had little contact with the opposite sex. At age 30 I still think that at your age you should focus your energies on building your life, discover your dreams and goals. Sex itself is a natural thing, nothing to be ashamed of. Your parents don't want to talk about it because they don't want you to keep thinking about it. It is not your parents' intention to make you feel bad about what you did, but they don't know any other ways to stop and to prevent you from making mistakes.
What you can do is to hug your mom if you don't know what to say to her, tell her you feel the awkwardness between you but you love her no matter what.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (3 August 2011):
 I think you did the right thing by not being with your bf temporarily so your parents won't worry as much. Do you have any privacy at all when it comes to your phone? You're basically an adult and they don't have the right to do that, even if they do have good intentions. Tell your parents that you would like your privacy to be respected and that you're old enough to make your own decisions. Your parents shouldn't be this protective. I talk like that with my guy best friend, but my mom would never go as far as snooping my phone. She would just ask me and that's what your parents should do. You're mature enough to be in a relationship and you can say whatever you want and it should be none of their business. So tell them you're responsible enough to make your own decisions and that you deserve some privacy. As for your uncle, just deal with him for the time being.
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