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writes:One of my female friends, not a girlfriend but I've known her for a while, knows about my 3 inch "problem" and when she talks to me alone she reassures me that even though I'm "small" in the sexual regions of the body, it truly doesn't matter. Other times though, she's saying about how she likes certain guys in bed because they're "bigger". She'd sometimes even make jokes about smaller guys. I know she's just joking but it inadvertently hurts it gets to me.I've gotten increasingly paranoid and insecure about this lately. I've never -really- had a girlfriend before so I'm deathly scared of how a girl would react if/when the time happens. D:I know someone who was really regretful because her first time was with "1/2 of a carrot"...Is she telling me what she's telling me 'cause I'm her friend and maybe she just feels sorry for me?If you had a friend in the same position as me, would you say things that you might not really believe just to make him feel better? Or do you truly believe that it doesn't matter? How important is sex in a relationship to most girls and do you/they consider size importantly?Please be totally and opently honest, everyone. x_x;I'm aware these are such repetitive and over asked questions, but being not very experienced myself, I'd like to know more to alleviate my fears and insecurities. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2009): I'm not sure if I'm supposed to post here but thanks for the responses, everyone.
And um, "A female reader, anonymous", I doubt she's putting me since she's a very good friend of mine and I honestly don't mind her knowing personal stuff about me.
As for "width", I'm not much different in width than I am in length, I'll just say. 3.5 around, 3 long. :\
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): i agree with that man "illithid"
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): First of all, the girl who is NOT having sex with you should not know about what you think is 'your problem'. The moment you say so it becomes a problem. And I think she unconsciously may be putting you down. I can't remember discussing my boyfriend's size with anyone. And my own boob size with only a few woman friends or my boyfriend - that too with an understanding that I am fine with it. As size goes I think width is more important. And I think you are very brave to address what you think may be a problem. You sound like you are comfortable with who you are and want to ensure the person you are with is too. I am sure any girl will be happy because you are concerned about making it good for her. And as long as you are not thinking of making a living as a porn star, size is not what sex is about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): You really don't need to worry about your size.
You will be able to have a great sexual relationship and it's all down to how you feel about each other.
My boyfriend is about your size and it's not an issue we have great sex.
If you feel your not satisfying your partner there are always other positions that will have more effect it's just finding them which can be alot of fun don't be frightened that its your size and don't forget your need to have fun too.
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 This entire debate is basically the same as a man making judgments on a woman because of her boob size. I mean the cliche is that men loooove huge tits. And if we compare your insecurities to this state of mind, then men only enjoy sex with women who have huge boobs. Is it true? No. Sane men enjoy sex regardless of boob seize. And even though boobs are a definite plus in the sex department (sizes vary) it's not the ONLY thing that makes sex great.
Same with guys that have smaller penises. I mean yeah, average size is more common and more expected. But there are so many things that a guy can bring to bed too. I mean you got chemistry going for you. And you have foreplay. And you have oral and fingering. To be honest, yes. The smaller you are the less satisfying vaginal sex can be. But that can also go the other way. There is such a thing as too big. And I would honestly rather have smaller than bigger. Bigger means pain. But if you meet a girl that really likes you, she won't care your penis size, because you'll be too busy having fun no matter what. And if you get her all riled up before sex, she'll enjoy it, trust me.
As for that girl who said she regreted having sex for the first time with a 'half inch carrot'... I garuntee she is just saying that because she regrets losing her virginity to the person. Not the size of the person. I think she's just trying to sound more justified in her poor decision in character. Believe me, sexual regret has nothing to do with penis size. That's just lame. Best of luck to you, and have confidence! That's what really attracts women. Not penis sizes. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Hey :) Don't worry about it! my last bf was huge but truly terrible in bed! the boyfriend im with now is not exactly huge but hes amazing in the bedroom, because he loves me and pays attention to what i need and not just penatration. i agree with lllithid that oral, fingers etc can give a women a better orgasm than penatration, SIZE DOESN'T COUNT.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (10 December 2009):
 If it helps, most women cannot climax from vaginal penetration anyway, regardless of the size of the man. The best sex a woman can have is oral, tongue and fingers on and in her. Even if you were seven inches long and around, you still might not make a girl orgasm... but if you learn to enjoy yourself down there, you can make a girl go crazy for you.
Find the clitoris and the g-spot, and she'll forget ALLLLLLL about everything else in the world.
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