Paranoid about my man's co-worker who has a crush on him

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Am I being paranoid?...B/f works with a woman who's had a crush on him since day one. They used to spend time out in the field; she'd make up any excuse to accompany him, even when it wasn't part of his job. But he came home to me every night. Once or twice she'd call him on the phone, he'd act like it was all business. Once he invited me on an out of town trip, then tried to talk me out of going, but I went anyhow, and she was there at the meeting. I thought it was odd. Now he rarely talks about her, so I don't know if they still work closely, or if he just lies to me when he's out in the field. The other night he was working late at the office; I got a hunch I should pay him a visit, so I drive to his office, park where he can't see my car and go inside. He's alone or so I think, everything is cool. Minutes later, the woman who has the crush is standing behind us, like she's spying on us. I say hello, and make small talk. She seems really nervous, sweaty, studdering. She says her car will not start and wants my b/f to use battery cables. He agrees. I go along. I don't think there's anything wrong with her car. She just wants to talk to him privately. Maybe I interrupted something? The car is fine. It starts right up. She goes away. I ask my b/f what's going on, he says he didn't know she was at the office working late too; it is a coincidence. (yeah, right). We go back to his desk, seconds later she's back again. (WTF?) She's still acting nervous, like something's on her mind. She asks me if we're happy? I tell her I don't know what she means. She stammers, says people see us out, and it doesn't seem like.....she traiils off. I ask her what she's talking about. She is really struggling, looking at my b/f and back at me. She says she hears things from people in the office, but maybe they are just rumors. I don't know what she's talking about, but getting the feeling my b/f has talked to her when we were fighting and she thinks we're unhappy. My b/f says it's time for us to leave the office, it's late, he's tired. I think he just wants to get the f*** out of there. She asks me several times if we are "happy" and later my b/f tries to cover, says she's "weird" maybe losing her job, he thinks she meant "Happy in life" not "happy as a couple". I can't forget the incident. The whole thing was weird. What do you think was going on there?....

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