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writes:Which guy seems more like relationship material?SAM- my ex who i was in a relationship with a year ago. i was in love with him. he is gorgeous, smart and shares my similar sarcastic, smarky humour. doesn't know exactly what he wants at times though and has freeked out once before in regards to commitment. there was a year where we got back together and things were amazing but then we went back to university and we'd both do our own thing. we go to different universities but he said he wants me back, has changed and is definitely ready for commitment with me now. he doesn't treat me like a princess by splashing out money on me, he occasionally asks me to buy him the cheeky pint...but we care for eachother, click and i'm the real me with him always.ANDREW- guy i've been dating for 2 weeks. he spends too much money on me. in one day, he brought me my cinema ticket, food to go with it, several drinks, more food and a nights stay in hilton hotel. i haven't slept with him yet, as i'm not sure what i want to do yet, relationship wise. we have the most in common out of all thew 3 guys. he treats me like a princess, but i dont necessarily want that alot and ive told him that. MATTIHAS- my close french friend. i've recently returned to the uk from france, after having worked there for 5 months. i became his close friend but nothing more. it was only till the last week that he told me how he felt about me. then i realised i love him. i want to be with him. the only problem is that he lives far from me and i dont think it would be possible to see eachother that often because of uni.so yeah its either the comfort of my ex's arms, using my head and giving it a go with a overly caring man who will wine n dine me constantly or go for the man i love where they'd be alot of boundries ahead for us to face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): You don't have to make a choice today! Spend some more time with each of them and the answer will come to you. Make an informed decision :)
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony +, writes (14 September 2009):
UnfinishedSymphony is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou :)
You've helped me an awful lot in seeing the reasons to why i'd be better off with either Sam or Andrew.
I guess you're right when it comes to Matthias, I don't think i could cope not seeing him often in the longrun. It'd be painful. I'm going on a date with Andrew tonight and seeing Sam at university later in the week.
I honestly don't know what i want to do yet. In the meantime I won't get properly involved with either. I'm sure i'll have a stronger idea of who I want to be with soon. And yes sugarbuns I do want to be with Sam, you're good ;) I'm just scared to put myself out there with him again...i'm scared i'm making thw wrong decision like usual.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (14 September 2009):
 SAM- No, he is an ex for a reason.ANDREW-He sounds sweet, not after you for sex, and treats you like a princess. MATTIHAS- You love him and he loves you. If you think that it can work out with MATTIHAS then go for it. You both love each other. But if you have doubts then I would tell Mattihas you don`t think it will work out and go to Andrew, let him treat you like a princess and give him a chance.Good Luck! But be honest with yourself, who do you really want to be with?
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (14 September 2009):
 Considering the size of the paragraph you wrote about each man, I'd say you already know the answer to your question. Sam. One other plus is, that he claims he's grown up a bit and is ready for a relationship. If that's true, then you may very well be in heaven this time around. The overly caring man will bore you in no time because I don't think you're really attracted to him, and you're used to the "work" you have to put into a relationship to accomplish even the teeniest goal, this guy already hands it to you on a silver platter. Where's the challenge in that? The third guy doesn't even live close enough to really have a relationship so he's out. So I hope it works out for you and Sam. Just don't burn any bridges with these other two guys. Be kind to them as you extract yourself in case you have to eat your words later.
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