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writes:hey everyone i like this girl but i think that she is out of my league. We hooked-up(kissed) at a party about 3 months ago and some of her friends gave her shit for doing it. We talk like once a week texting each other, but i need to know what to do....how do i get a girl who's out of my league??
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 You will always have feelings for her, so when she gets a boyfriend, he will spot the signs and have "the chat" with you. She will stop seeing you because her boyfriend doesn't like you.
You will spend all your time following her around in the hope that one day she will ask you out.... She won't, but she'll enjoy having a gay best friend to carry her shopping for her and ask a guys point of view on "do you thin so and so fancies" her.
What I'm getting at is you have to man up and ask her out! At least that way you both know where you stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know but if i do and she says no, then we would be friends becaues it would be weired. I would rather be her friend than be nothing to her, but on the other hand i would rather go out with her than be her friend..
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (17 April 2009):
 Have you ever heard of a very very old song "Uptown Girl" which originally sang by Billy Joel? (remake by West Life). Well, Billy Joel got the (uptown) girl! (btw, it was a true story, BJ married his girl Kristie Brinkley). Even Grease (the original) also has a theme about "uptown" girl.
Love does not recognize league, color, height, age, etc. Come on, show her that you can overcome the peer pressure! She and her friends will respect you and your confidence in approaching her. And if they smirked at you, well then, you would not want them as your friends, would you? You only want people who respect you as you.
Go get her, tiger! Call her now and ask her out!
Cat
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (17 April 2009):
If you have kissed her then she is not out of your league, her friends however maybe a bit snotty.
Ask her out, you never know she may not give in to peer pressure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Dude she kissed you,She may not be like her vacous friends she may be intelligent and caring or she may just want to slum it a bit ;-) . Im not putting you down, your the same as any the rest of us no better now worse, get out there and go for it, orse that can happens is she says no, if thats the case, plenty more fish in the sea and at the very least youll know you tried,
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): We all (at once in our life...maybe more) have a thing for someone we believe is out of our league. But if we don't take a risk, we will never know! Friendship is the first step in a situation like this. If you can become close friends...it could just happen!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Well, first of all, you don't underestimate yourself like that. If you go into a game, or a fight, or a exhibition, or ANYTHING for that matter, with the mentality that you are somehow lesser, then that will be what you are.Similarly if you go into this with the perception that she is "out of your league", then she will be.And the way you get her is the same way you get any girl, you ask her out. Don't put her on a pedestal... Scratch that. You can put her on a pedestal, thats actually part of what she probably likes about you, is the adoration. But try to make sure its a reachable pedestal. If you value her like a queen or princess, and yourself like a lowly peasant, yeah... that won't work buddy. At least try to be a minor noble or something.
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