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writes: ive been with my boyfriend now for 2 years and we love and trust eachother deeply. we have a great relationship in every way except sexual. we where fine at the start for a few months then it just got less and less often.neither of us has a very high libedo, but its been quite a while since we had sex. we are loving in outer shows of emotion just never in that "special way "any more, not even while on holiday. i want to make him happy and fulfilled in every aspect of our relationship. any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): hi, i would agree with the two ladies answers (sorry GD). i believe you are in love with this man and that he does still want and fancies you, otherwise you would have both gone your seperate ways when things first started to wane. yet instead your relationship grew stronger or you wouldnt have that deep love and trust you speak of. many people would give their right arm for that. you are both lucky in that respect. there are many reasons why your sex life is non existant right now such as work, health or money issues. my wife and i went through a similar situation a while ago and when our stressors lifted so did our bedroom problems. i bet yours will too. however in the mean time talk to him and find out if there is anything he is worried about that may be causing this problem and assure him that you love him and will always be there for him.sex is important and you know that or you wouldnt have asked for our advice. great ideas on the nice meal and dressing up claire and helena, try massage too i bet he will love it! good luck and please keep us posted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2006): i know exactly what u are going through, i have a simular problem.i think that i am more like best mates than anything with my bf. maybe u are the same. i love my bf very much but my friends say to me that for a relationship to work u need ALL parts of a relationship, if one of these is missing then its hard to make things work and i think sex is a major part, as well as being good companions and trust. maybe try to spice up ur sex life,treat urself to new sexy underwear,or have a look in ann summers to get some ideas. try talking about ur fantasys to each other,have more alone time. i hope it works out for u both,everything happens for a reason,only u know how u feel. all the best, let me know what happens xx helena xx
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reader, GD  +, writes (13 June 2006):
The first question that springs to mind is if both of you actually have a low libido? In such cases, it is usually one of the two with a problem, and the other is perservering. For example, it seems to me as if you are complaining about the lack of sex, which seems to place the problem with your boyfriend. If the problem does rest with him, you need to address the issue of why he can't get it on with you. Unfortunately, it could be that he is not attracted to you, you don't get his "hot" and his lack of attraction in turn serves to turn you off sexually too. My instinct tells me that such a relationship is not healthy and I would recommend a deep discussion with him on the matter. Note, I have assumed you are both at an age where your sexual urges are still strong. Good luck
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (13 June 2006):
 dear reader. surprise him dress up make yourself feel really sexy and up for anything (with him) its hard when you have a low sex drive especialy when its both of you but dispite what people say i think its a very important part of a relationship so try you very best really make an effort cook him his fav meal caddles you know the whole works and i hope it works
keep me posted i'll have my fingers croosed for you
all the best xxx
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