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30-35,
*iredandsore
writes:My bf and I have been dating for 3 years. He has always had a very high sex drive, we would have sex 4-5 days a week sometimes two or three times a day. He is in the army and was over seas for 8 months. He came home 28 days ago. I was behind happy to see him and even more thrilled to get him in bed. BUT it has been a little to much. Since the night he came home we have had sex daily, some days more then once. Since Sunday we have had sex 9 times! I love him, I love what he does In Bed but my lady parts need a break. I don't want him to think I'm not wanting to have sex with him just that its a little to much.Our relationship isn't just sex, he is an amazing bf, he cuddles, talks to me . We have a great relationship and I love him its just that I'm honestly exhausted and sore! How can I nicely explain this to him with put hurting his feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2014): Two or three times a day. Jeepers that is a lot of sex and it would wear your body parts out and you out as well.
What's going to happen if you marry and have kids and as you grow older. The sex drive will dwindle as he ages, but then there is always Viagra.
You do need to tell him to back off a little, that it is hurting you and that you are sore. He should totally understand that.
I've told my boyfriend that I get sore, but he gets all prideful that he did the job right.
As Honeypie said blowjobs may be the answer as long you don't wear your mouth out. There is hand jobs too as long as your hands don't hurt too much afterwards.
Communication is the key here. He needs to be sensitive to your needs.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 August 2014):
 Why should his feelings be hurt ?.. I guess he will have a basic knowledge of human anatomy- and of physics : the effect of constant friction on soft tissues etc- I mean, it will come as no shock to him. You are SORE - what's to be offended about ?? Would he get his feeling hurt if you developped carpal tunnel syndrome and refused to play ping pong with him ? Or if you sprained your ankle and refused to dance with him ?... While your lady parts take a rest , you can always do other things, as Honeypie so obscurely and allusively suggests :). Just use your... imagination.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 August 2014):
 Just tell him your lady bits needs a BREAK!
My husband served in the Army for most of our marriage, so he has been gone for schools, training and deployment and yeha the "reunion sex" was making me feel "bruised" below.
Honestly, my best advice? LOTS AND LOTS of blowjobs, trust me he won't complain. Second best advice - LEAVE the bedroom, GET outside and do things together.
The reunion sex is him showing you how much he has missed you, and how much his BODY has missed you too :) Take it as a compliment, honey.
And don't be afraid to talk to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2014): You could start by telling him everything you said here.
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