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writes: I have been in a defacto relationship for about six years. Over this time my guy has accused me of all sorts of things. I now realise that this relationship is not going anywhere. My problem is that my guy does not accept this. I have told him a lot of different ways and I've tried to get him to see my point of view. He is unable to do this and refuses to move on. Help!!!!
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reader, pica +, writes (2 December 2006):
You don't need to get him to see your point of view so much as stop seeing him; he doesn't need to give permission. I don't understand what you mean by 'defacto'. If you live together then someone would need to move out - sounds like that would have to be you. Easily said but .. get your new place organised before telling him. If you don't live together, tell him firmly that it is over. Stop contacting him, don't take his calls. If he has a key to your place, change the locks. I guess he might show up at your house - I'd say don't answer. Spend time at a friend's place? Every time you engage in a conversation with him about whether or not it is over, you are keeping it going. I can't say it will be easy but you obviously want to finish with him so you need to move towards that. If he becomes difficult and harasses you, don't be afraid to go to the police. Good luck.
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