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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My wonderful boyfriend and I have been together for eight months. It was beautiful, blissful... up until a little over a month ago. There is really no specific moment in time that either of us noticed a decline in anything. We are very compatible physically, completely happy in that respect. We share the same occupation, and work together almost every day. We believe we are soulmates...For some reason, though, I have been crying a lot lately from feeling guilty for having a little more money to spend once in a while. Neither of us make very much money, and we are not able to really go anywhere or do anything really fun when the weather is not as nice as in the summer. It's more than that, though. Being a year older than my boyfriend, I often feel much more mature than him, but that is not his fault. It's like we've hit a standstill in our great, usually fun relationship. I miss the days where we were best friends that laughed and shared life with each other. I'm going on a family vacation next week, which he is extremely unhappy about becuase my family is able to go somewhere amazing together, and he cannot afford to come. I don't know what to do. The more objective feedback I get, the better. I want to be happy in this relationship, I just don't know how anymore.Thanks for your help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 January 2010):
Keep working at it. The honeymoon period is now over, and here comes real life. Real relationships his barriers like this, and this is the real test. Spend time together without having spend money. Just go for a walk, sit in a field and be happy together. Spend an evening in having a dinner together that you've both cooked. Anything like that. More money might make it better for a while, but eventually the same problem would come along. So just spend time together enjoying each other's company. This is something that can be worked on.
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