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writes:Hi all, my boyfriend of 4 years and I were supposed to go on a little getaway to the casino/hotel for a few days. I was looking forward to it as we never went anywhere by ourselves just the two of us. The past 2 days he has kind of been ignoring me. Not really ignoring but more like "im tired" "im gunna go home to sleep" "cant see you tonight work killed me" yada yada yada etc. It gets so annoying sometimes to the point where he wont text me all day and just call me at night to let me know hes tired.Anyways today I had texted him asking if he was alive and hes like "yeah working" so we sent a few more texts and I said "cant wait for our little getaway" He turns around and says he wants to go with Mike(his friend) This really bothered me because I was so excited about it and I couldnt wait to book our little getaway and now hes saying he wants to go with his friend!!!!!!!I know friends are important in any relationship, however he seems to be so inconsiderate when regarding my feelings.I am by no means a controlling girlfriend where I dont let him have a life. I am far from that but I think its kind of rude. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!! WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK(keep in mind it wasnt booked yet we were both happy to book it in a couple of days and now he tells me he wants to go with a friend who betrayed him a few times)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): You may let him have a life but do you have one? You sound like one of those girls whose whole world shrinks once she has someone. He's pulled back and uninterested because he feels suffocated and responsible for your happiness. I think you should be single and find an interesting life and not drop it the next time you meet a guy or it will be just like this relationship.
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reader, Jackalus  +, writes (26 February 2011):
Well it seems as if he doesnt really want to be going out with you at all friends are important but I believe a relationship which could go somewhere is more important so he can't see it going anywhere serious
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reader, Abella +, writes (26 February 2011):
 he is not as 'into' you as you think. Casino? He may prefer to gamble with his friend rather than spend quality time with you.
If his attitude continues then you should think about looking around for a guy who is truly into you.
Because 'tired all the time' suggests that he does not look forward to being with you as much as a committed to you guy would be.
Of course he could be ill, but i doubt that. He might be unfit, but probably not.
I think he just seeks out activities that give him more pleasure than being with you.
Sorry to have to say it, but the writing is on the wall, as far as this relationship. Try to book yourself into a nice spa and get pampered for three hours to make up for
his lack of attention to you.
Don't be fooled by his sweet words when he does want to spend time with you. Look also at his inability to give you real attention and real time when it countsl
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