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*bdream3
writes:The last time I saw my boyfriend was on Valentine's Day. After that we spoke on the phone and we had an argument and he said he needed space. We have known one another on and off for many years and we were separated for several more years and then, ironically, we got back together for the first time in so long last November. Unfortunately, he's not good at keeping promises because he so spontaneous and does things unexpectedly. I have been practicing the no contact rules and I try to do things to get my mind off of him by keeping busy, but I still am lonely and I miss him. There have already been times that I would cry about it. I'm going to attend counseling sessions, but have you heard of the no contact rule or know about it? If you have, how does it help and does it still work if he is used to you calling him or sending him email messages?
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reader, ladyprestige +, writes (26 February 2011):
The "no-contact" rule is simple: leave him alone. It's extremely hard getting over someone that you love and want to be with. But the no-contact rule gives you an opportunity to make a clean break. For instance, delete all of the contact information you have for him. Such as, e-mail, address, phone numbers. I would even suggest boxing away any photos or memorbilia of your relationship together. The reason is, the more you see or are reminded of anything about him, the harder, and I mean the harder, it is to get over him. Believe me, 21 days of this act of no-contact, and when he is finally knocking down your door to get you back, it will be a complete surprise and he may want you more that you don't want him so much.
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