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writes:I am a 26 year old male, and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 7 years. I really don't see her anymore. She works 14 hours or more a day and has a second job on weekends. If I'm lucky I get to maybe spend time with her when we both have a day off but then she is usually tired or running errands. I feel like we are growing apart from not spending time together, on top of it all we have no sexual relationship because she has diagnosed herself as Asexual. This has been a big problem for me but I could deal with it if I at least got to spend more quality time with her. It has gotten to the point where I feel like we are just roommates...and everytime I bring up these issues to her she ignores me or gets angry with me, I feel like she is expecting the relationship to fix itself, I have become unhappy and very depressed, what should I do?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 A relationship without sex is just a friendship. Without the deep connection you have with that person is gone. If I were you I would think very seriously about moving on from this girl. There will be others out there who will embrace your love and give you back what you deserve
Have courage god bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): Awww! I am in the same situation as you: my boyfriend works all the hours god sends, is unwilling to have sex anymore and never wants any time with me. We became friends and no more and he expected things to sort themselves. The solution: I ended things.
Was it hard? Yes. Am i hurt that things didnt work out? Of course. Was it the best decision overall? Yes.
Relationships are, as you know, about a whole host of different things; sex, love, quality time, attraction, dedication are all wrapped up in the description. If you are lacking a number of these things then I'm not surprised you feel unhappy and depressed. Try and think about the bigger picture, its more than likely that you are spending a great deal of time wondering what better things on the horizon there is out there. Be brave and go for it. You deserve much better and if you are trying to communicate to no avail, things aren't going to get any better. Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 April 2010):
I think you have to tell her exactly how you feel. To be honest, it sounds like this may have come to an end. You need to tell her straight that things need to change, or you'll have to leave for your own sake.
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