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female
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writes:Morning, I desperatly need some advice.My friend who is 28 is trying to get her drivers licence, she has failed a few timesand after each test she is becoming more withdrawn. She hardly comes out with us anymore-infact my birthday is coming up and I've organised a nite outbut she said she won't come becauseher test is the next day and she won't beable to enjoy herself.The main thing is she is embaressed that she doesn't have a licence and the rest of us do so she puts alot of pressure on herself.We have urged her to go to the docs but she won't as she assured us once she passes her test she will be fine.We have all told her she has nothing to be ashamed of. Infact she is the one with the best paid job, nice fiancé,big house etc.... But she doesn't think these things matter.What can we do?Thanks
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Tell her she is not alone, she must only know that she is not the only one who failed the driving test. so she must not feel down. tell her, not having or not passing the driving test is not the reason to get depress, theres a lot of bad things happening in this world more than this failing the test. She can anyway do it again. and if she dont make it in 10 times, just keep doing it. So what? so what if she do it in 20 times. who cares! at least she dont give up, and never lose hope. just let her Cheer up. tell her dont lose her friends just because of this. Goodluck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): It's never shameful to not have a licence, or to fail several times.. She has to look on the positive side, that if they let her pass when she didn't show all the signs of safe driving, she might just kill herself or someone else, and that would be because she passed, and wasn't ready. Tell her to just keep practicing, and eventually she'll know in herself when she's ready enough to drive. It's better to be safe then sorry, and some people just need more time and practice before they can be comfortable enough behind the wheel to drive properly. If a person thinks nervously, or is distracted in certain ways, that's how they'll drive and their driving will be dangerous because of their negativity. Until she can tell herself to just turn off her worries and concentrate and relax, she should just keep practicing. Some of the greatest people in the world never had a licence, so she's not alone amongst the cool people out there, either way. It can seem like your whole life waiting until you get a licence but she just has to settle down and relax and wait for it to someday come to her, through practice, not her rushing to grasp it so badly out of desparation.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 February 2010):
 She will eventually pass her driving tests if she does not give up taking those tests.
You could be overtly concerned about her because I think she is made of sterner stuff. Otherwise , she would have given up taking those driving test.
You can give her encouraging words or inspirational stories to cheer her up.(Google those inspirational stories)
You can visit her ,bring along a small token or cookie basket to show your care and love for her or see if she needs any help .
Give the gift of time. Sit by your friend's side and merely listen as she pours out heartfelt feelings.
I think this would cheer up your friend.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 February 2010):
All you can do is be a friend to her. Just be there. If she won't open up, there is little you can do other than just be there as a friend.
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