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writes:My husband of two years says I am trying to constrict and control him because on occasion, and I do mean maybe 2 days out of five, ask where he is. The reason I ask is that because I cannot sell my home and my child goes to a local school we do not live in the same house at the moment and he has a self-employed job so he is on the road a lot, so I wonder what he is doing. He answers so crossly when I ask as if i don't trust him that it is actually beginning to make me feel a tiny bit suspicious that maybe something is going on. He told me I was like a boa constrictor. He says that I don't like him going anywhere, seeing anyone or talking to anyone and that is simply not true. He is highly flirtatious and I am a jealous type but I honestly have never made much of a fuss over anything. Because we don't live together i hardly have the right. Now in my mind I am beginning to have trust issues because other men I have been with have always turned the tables against me when they are the ones who are guilty and this is becoming similar. What do you think?
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reader, Steve_S +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Totally agree with Tony on this - great advice
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reader, Flashtony +, writes (7 May 2011):
He does sound overly defensive... it's likely he's trying to hide something, I'd suggest that you go with your gut, you're the one in the situation and your gut feel is likely to be right. it does sound like me in a previous relationship... when you're having an affair you tend to react very defensively when you're challenged on your whereabouts... in my case, it made me realise that I was wrong... not always the case... talk to him and tell him that his overreaction is making you suspicious of his motives and you only want clarity because you care about him and want a transparent relationship, Good luck.
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