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writes:I have been friends with this guy for a little over six months.We have great fun together, and we have at some point admitted we like each other, but he is not sure about getting in to a relationship with me. ( He says he's broken up with his ex, but they still keep in touch closely).Recently, we had very intimate moments, including oral sex from each other. I felt quite shy after words and withdrawn.It's been three days and he hasn't called. What do you think? ( I'm falling for him)Will a guy give oral sex to a girl just for the fun of it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): The level of commitment a guy will give usually stops increasing once the sex starts. If you start the sex before the commitment, then the commitment is usually never coming later.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Yes, guys do that. (Girls too, if I'm anything to go by). If you're not comfortable with that you really should not continue.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Aw I'm sorry. I live with a roommate who sounds like this guy exactly. Honestly I thought you were one of his girls until I saw the flag. He isn't over his ex and isn't ready for a relationship. He has a new girl in his room every couple weeks. Unfortunately they all fall for him, he doesn't have to feel like a tool because he told them all outright that he didn't want anything serious. A guy will definitely give and recieve oral for the fun of it. Why wouldn't he if he could? No strings attached but still gets sex? Yeah pretty much any guy. I hope your guy isn't as bad as my roommate where he will trade off girls and call you up for a little something when he has nothing else going on. Although it may seem impossible you need to not talk to him again. It won't go anywhere and you will end up getting used. Don't fall for him any more than you already have. I tried warning a girl that my roommate was trying to "woo". Of course he was able to get her anyway and she ended up calling my boyfriend a week later asking what happened and why "mike" hasn't called, all the while he had another girl up stairs... Just be smart. Chalk this up to a mistake on your part and move on. And if he calls and you can't find yourself ignoring him, DO NOT have sex or any form of sex. Not that I am saying this could happen, but if you want any chance at a relationship EVER with this guy then DON'T have sex until you are in a relationship with him. If he says he wants to but still can't commit- huge red flag. He is using you and you will get hurt worse. Having sex will not "get him". If anything it wrecks your chances. As tennisstar said, you need the chase. So be friends if you must. But nothing sexual. Tell him you just want to preserve the friendship or something. You will save yourself a lot of heartache. And have much more confidence.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Will a guy give oral sex to a girl just for the fun of it?
Yes. Guys enjoy having a "no strings" sexual relationship. Do not engage into anymore sexual relations with him unless he's willing to have a more traditional relationship with him. Otherwise he will continue to use you and your friendship to meet his sexual needs.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Red flags as followed:
1. Hesitant about getting into a relationship with you.
2. But he will exchange oral sex.
3. Not over his ex girlfriend.
4. After the exchanging of oral se he hasn't bothered to call you.
You've already started off on the wrong foot but letting this turn sexual. Yes, oral sex is a form of sex. If you like a guy and want a relationship then you take the necessary steps to let it him...he woos you, he takes you out on a proper date, then down the road you let the sex happen. Not right off the bat..give yourself a little mystery. Some chase.
Unless the guy is overly generous with oral (I've only encountered 2 in my vast dating history) which are rare gems, then yeah. Usually not, you have to give in order to receive.
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