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writes:My question is about blow jobs with my boyfriend. A while ago he told me he thought they were overrated and he's never been interested in receiving them from anybody he's been with.I didn't think it was because I did them badly because I've been told in past relationships that I'm quite good at them.Well anyway, on the occasions that I have given them to him in the past he has always had an orgasm, so I was a bit confused that he said they were overrated.The last time I tried, he said he felt uncomfortable so I stopped. We've been together for years so it's not like he's embarrassed or something, so I don't know what to make of it.Are there any men on here that could shed any light on this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2022): "I've been told in past relationships that I'm quite good at them." So you probably like to preform and worked on technique. My wife is a little nuts about giving them. I could make due with 1 or 2 a week. But what keeps my interest is her playacting. She's sometimes a prostitute, "puts the money on the nightstand, I work on the tip now." or I'm a handyman, she's an overly appreciative housewife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2022): Hopefully I'm not getting overly sentimental about this... what comes through in your post is this feeling that maybe a gift that you are making to someone is not being appreciated for what you'd like it to be worth, or had thought it would be worth.
Maybe *You* feel unappreciated... and maybe even a tad degraded because to be seen as 'keen' on giving someone a blowjob, that's putting yourself out there, yet here's the person telling you to your face that he's never been interested in receiving them from anyone... and what not.
If that's the case, well, I do not have an actual 'solution' or conclusion...
Certainly, don't take it personally to heart that your gift is not met with the appreciation you would have wanted.
Rest assured that there's plenty of guys out there who need someone to show that kind of level of 'willingness' towards them to even be able to care to sustain an erection with that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2022): "A while ago he told me he thought they were overrated and he's never been interested in receiving them from anybody he's been with."
"The last time I tried, he said he felt uncomfortable so I stopped."
Why are you asking other people? Listen to your boyfriend!
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reader, QueenCupcake +, writes (25 March 2022):
 Not everyone enjoys them, even if they do orgasm. Orgasms are just a biological reaction, nothing to do with whether he likes it or not
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2022): I am not a man, but...why can't the poor guy say, and think, and feel that blow jobs are overrated, without people havong to shed light on this ? I think you can take him at face value, he is not crazy about blowjobs, can take them or leave them. It is not so strange ,I guess, different people have different sexual tastes and preferences. Although he may belong to a minority, it may be a minority but not an anomaly.Women too , some love receiving oral, some not so much, a few totally dislike it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 March 2022):
 What he said, THAT you didn't listen to, was HE isn't into blowjobs.
You thought because other partners before him liked it, that he is a male, HE should too.
Everyone has preferences.
While it is rarer ( I think) for men to not enjoy oral, it does happen. Could be previous trauma, or just preference.
Also, him climaxing from it means shit all. A woman being raped can orgasm too doesn't mean she wanted it or liked it. The BODY just reacted.
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