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writes:Okay idk what to do. my gf and i have been together 8 months now. Neither of us have ever been in a relationship before and we are both very serious.My problem is i love her very much, but our personalitysare just different. she is a person who likes to sit all day inside her house not doing anything, while i am a person who wants to just get out and go somewhere, dont care where. i am very much in love with her and we have talked about having a future together. But i just dont want my future to involve my wife sitting at home forever while im out having fun with other people.This is making me consider ending the relationship, so Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (26 November 2010):
People find fun in different things and different environments. If she's anything like one of my old girlfriends, she would much rather spend a night in whenever you suggest going out, however once you actually get her out, she has a great time! Sometimes it just takes that little push out the door.
Arrange a night out with friends and arrange it ahead of time so she knows about it. If she's not the spontaneous type, she doesn't like plans being dropped on her the night of. Even if that day comes, remind her that she agreed to go out so she doesn't bail. Maybe once she is out of the house, she'll start having a wonderful time. Slowly, she may start to initiate nights out on her own.
However, you should meet her half way as well. If she wants to snuggle up and watch a movie every now and again, do it with her. Even if your interests are different now that doesn't mean both of you can't learn to enjoy what the other enjoys doing. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): Has your girlfriend expressed her enjoyment of being a homebody to you so specifically?
I know some people are less outgoing, but there could be a great many reasons contributing to this bout of housecatiness she is experiencing... it is not necessarily a personality trait.
How happy does she seem with her current lifestyle?
Has she expressed any desire to travel... to see sights... to experience... I dunno... plays/shows/museums/films/cultureingeneral?
Reclusiveness as lifestyle, I feel, is a rare natural choice for social humans... even if she is introverted and enjoys hobbies of the more meditative sort... does not mean she is not at all thrill- seeking.
I think it would likely draw you close together as a couple if you were to be the one to lure her out of her shell... to "show her your world"...
She loves you; she'll give it a chance, even if this Does happen to be part of her character... Girls have been proven to Change. :)
-Tante Vic
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2010): ~Oh my, the beautiful purpose of opposite - eternal equilibrium~ Let nature take it's course. That's the beauty of your unbalanced energies. You both will provide one another with what both are lacking or have an excess of ultimately merging in to a phenomenal highly treasured equilibrium which will only blossom as the two of you harmoniously blossom together from the unbreakable the naturally synced between and of you two.~This is a gift of polarity ~ resistant relentless dueal attraction~ the laws of attraction... without it our earth would either implode or explode, the purpose of equilibrium. You Two Have It All...Now hold both of each other hands and run to the wide open field and sing and laugh together as you to Merry Go Round in the same harmonious rythm which makes Our Multifaceted Earth Spin of Intense Yet Undisturbing Opposition Round and Round... Oh my... *sigh*... I want that!
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