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writes: Looking for opinions. Happened a few years ago. Female coworker called our home with sexual joke to my husband. She also confided to him thought she was pregnant with another married mans child. Also, calling his cell phone to find out when he was coming to work. Asked him to stop being friendly with her as she seemed like trouble. He stated he removed her phone # from his cell and would not talk to her. Six months later I use his phone cause mine is not working and find a direct connect number hidden in the note pad with no name, etc. Not in regular phone index. Beeped it and female answered. I asked husband who it was. He stated he didn't know and I would have to deal with it and went to bed. The next day he states he called it (when I wasn't around) and now knows it was the coworker and doesn't know how the # got there. Also during this time when he was supposed to be helping a friend who lived in the next town, the tower that picked up a call I made to him was in the town next to where she lives quite far from where he was supposed to be. Also, they work in labs in different buildings and when I brought him to work he sometimes wanted to go sit in the parking lot of a different building which I thought was weird and when I called there, guess who answered the phone??!! It's been eating at me for awhile so I'm just looking for opinions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): Thank you for your answers. Happened awhile ago but still eats at me as we had been married 18 years at that time and you get to know your husband pretty well. He had been caught in lies before but nothing to this degree - kind of petty stuff but took him like an average of 5 - 10 years to come clean on those petty things. He states this girl was not even a friend?? Then as Jayney Y says why would she be confiding in him. She is about 20+ years younger then him and the married guy she was dating when they met was also an older man. This was a few years ago but she still works there although in another area so it still eats at me. Also, no matter when we tried to discuss the situation he would just tell me that there was nothing going on and I will never get a different answer and then refuses to talk about it. Also states that in the past when he lied, he knew that I knew he was lying but he had to lie anyway. Very confusing.
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reader, MammaDex  +, writes (19 November 2009):
Basically you must be very patience just to sit on it and went to bed.. I would have to agree with timetosave, about trust... However, i would still suggest that you go and have a good talk with you husband, expressing how you feel and think about all this weird stuff going on... Here a few suggestion you might want to ponder about:
1. Have a decent meet up with this friend, and try to get to know her...
2. Do a little open house event, and ask him to invite her and all his friends, from there you'll see how he react to it..
3. You can even try to tell him that you won't stop him to befriend with the women, all you want is the truth.. (its a reverse psychology)... What he's going to tell you may hurt you deeply or may meant nothing...
Basically if all this things doesn't work, maybe you should be worried..
However, it comes down to how much you trust him and how well you know about his attitude and the way he think about thinks.. Have confident in yourself then you will be able to see what is really going on.. Is it just your hallucination or you husband deserve to be hit..
Remember that trust, love, confident and a good understanding will always help to see a clear view of everything...
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): well i really would be just like you...worried to death. I dont believe him for one bit but you know only you can tell how he really is and if yuo should believe him or not. i think thats pretty fishy and i would be looking a little bit more into it. try askin that woman whats going on and/or meeting her for lunch that way you can see her reaction and that will tell you a little bit more about if shes lying or not. get to the bottom of it asap!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): This stuff really sucks! Its like men can't be happy with just ONE woman. I wouldn't let this eat you up but instead tell him outright that this is not right to be this close to another woman and that it really bothers you. Let him know that cheating will not be tolerated but also be sure to let him know you care about your relationship and see if there is anything bothering him. Communication is the most simple thing in the world yet no one just calmly sits down and talks about things. Maybe it makes him feel good about himself that another woman shows him interest. Make sure you are doing the same thing!
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 I'm a little confused as to whether you think this is still happening or it's something that happened a long time ago but you can't forget about it. My question would be; why was she confiding something as serious as being pregnant with a married guys child to your husband? My next question would be; why is/was your husband making himself available as a confidante to this woman?It sounds suspicious enough that if you still think something may be going on between them, it could be worth hiring one of those private detectives so that you can put your mind at rest one way or the other. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): look you should trust him. if he says he isnt fooling around he isnt,but of course if you still dont trust him then you should talk it out then. good luck -time to save
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