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writes:I opened a Pandora's box by checking my boyf's text messages. I've been with him a year and never had reson to doubt him but this weekend he went to a party and has been off with me ever since. In his sent items there were dodgy txts to a girl late on Sunday night (They're pretty incriminating, him complementing her and saying she was beautiful etc, asking if she got any comments from people who saw them at the party).So do I think he slept with her? Don't know. Do I think something happened? Yes, and knowing his previous history, for him to swap numbers with someone he's got off with and follow it up the next day is unheard of. My trust is just shattered. What to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice, I think I'll definitely be keeping quiet about finding the txts. We had a big chat/row last night & it seems to have cleared the air! I said I thought something had happened at this party as he'd been acting off with me & I'd never doubted him before. He said he'd had an opportunity but nothing had happened. Not quite sure I totally believe that but I asked if it was anything he was going to follow up & he says not. He made a special effort to be nice to me this morning because I was quite upset last night & if that's because he's feeling a little guilty then, good! Fingers crossed!
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 March 2007):
It could have been a drunken kiss. If you tell him what you read, he will turn it round and say ''i cant beleive you read my texts''. As if your the one whos in the wrong. So dont say anything about reading his messages. He asked her if she got any ''comments'' from people who ''saw them'' at the party. You could take that in a few diffrent ways, but why not drop it on him by saying...i saw a friend of mine, they said they saw you at the party you went to (on whatever night it was). Then give him an, I KNOW what happened look and you should be able to drag it out of him from there.
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reader, SexKitten69 +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Hi, i can imagine that you must be quite disapointed and hurt at the moment.I think that you need to sit and chat with him, i would not mention the text until it was essential and just ask him about the party first then add that you know about him sending text to this other female.I know that you may not believe everything that comes out of his mouth. If i were you i would tell one of my freinds and ask her if i could text her with some complementing text then change her name in the phone book and 'accedently' leave the phone lying around!!You need to get to the bottom of this mystery and if i were you i would do a little more snooping around first, it's not fair that you have this on your mind and to get straight to the bottm of it you need to ask him straight out! I hope things work out for you and you manage to sort out this issue.Regards(Please rate this response) :)
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reader, lamo +, writes (13 March 2007):
 my ex did the same thing but it was is ex he was texting i look at them one night when he was asleep. i read them and looked at the date and time i ask he about it he sed they where nothing it was he texting him but he didnt know that i read his message he sent to her. i got in a mood that nite when i next saw him and we talked about them he sed he would stop them and he did for a bit but as soon as he got cred they started and his phone would ring in the night it was her. i told him about it he sed what can i do. now i wished i put my foot down that what you need to do. ask him about it, then ask him to stop, if it carrys on put your foot down hard dont let him walk over you.
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