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writes:Help, i feel sick when ever i think about my partner being nice to his ex. He says it is just because of their son, aged 14 who lives with us. She lives 100 miles away with her husband and when she phones up he always has time to chat to her. They were married for 15 years, have history and she ran off with this bloke, left him and the kids and then ended up marrying the other bloke. But i feel so sick. Me and my partner are both the same age, yet she is 16 years younger than him. how do i get over this. He says every day that he loves me and i am the only one for him and he would never cheat especially with her. I feel ill.
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reader, elsie +, writes (13 March 2007):
 i can understand how you feel but at the end of the day its only phonecalls.isnt it better that they dont hate each other if only for the sons sake.do you ever listen to these calls?are they out in the open?you mention that shes 16years younger than him.is this more about insecurities deep within you?hate to say it but maybe hes a bit of a father figure?i wish i could swap places with you my partner and his ex who has his 11year old son act like best buddies behind my back.when i call her she runs him into the ground but she lets him come and go as he pleases.it eats me up inside but i think he runs to her because she helps him out like a mum.at the end of the day a problem is a problem.as long as you have an idea what these phonecalls entail i dont think you should make yourself ill over phonetalk.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 I think you need to believe what he says when says he loves you. There is very little you can do about this im afraid. As they have a son together there will always be that contact especially as he lives with you. I think you are just going to have to learn to live with it. I understand how you are feeling but you have no other choice. At least there is the consolation that she lives so far away it would be worse if she was calling to the house every week.
Good luck
Aunty t
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