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writes:I have become very good friends with a man I met on the internet. We have the same likes and dislikes. We talk every day on the phone and sometimes twice. We have seen each other twice. He is a long haul trucker. But we live only 30 minutes away. We both don't want a relationship. But we want a friendship with sex. I am divorced, live by my self. I love it. No one to worry about but the dog. I have enough friends and family to keep me busy for a life time. But I like the thought that he is not around all the time, and I can do what I want. he calls it an open relationship. i think he means that no sex outside of us, but we are not commited to telling everything we do. I know being a trucker, he has a lot of opportunity for sex. But he says he is about quality not quantity. We had sex for the first time yesterday. It was amazing. And for that, I could wait a year for. He waited two months to be with me. And I do believe him. I know you are going to say, ask him what he mean's. But I have never been in a relationship like this. I have tried dating, i have tried having a relationship. I hate them both. I love my privacy. But I don't want him to bring anything home that he might transmit to me. So, what does open relationship really mean?
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reader, Lovelyone1 +, writes (10 April 2009):
I'm in an open relationship. This is my first time doing this. To my shock - it was my preferrence:0 ! He wanted more, but I just don't feel that way about him. We're ok as friends and I do have feelings for him, but to me their is not enough to build a life long relationship on. I don't feel comfortable having sex with "any" man, nor he with "any" woman (so he says) so if we want to be intimate we go to each other. If I find someone that I really want to have a long-term relationship with then we will disolve the open relationship by going our separate ways. In a nut-shell...FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS!!!! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): I heard the term open relationship before years ago and it mean both were free to sleep with others. You need to check out what he means. Sex can be fantastic but it depends what you are looking for. Be honest with yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): You are in love
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reader, fluffyshoes  +, writes (28 October 2008):
As far as I understand it an open relationship is one that is not exclusive. So if you don't want anything transmitted I would make sure you take all necessaryu precautions when you are with him.This may not be how he means it though he might mean open in another way but I have always heard it t mean that you are seeing other people as well. I know exactly about what you mean about dating and relationships I spent a long time single and was never happier.Any friendship or relationship has rules and boundaries of behaviour the only way you will know what his definitions are are to ask him.Good luck
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