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writes: Im confused.. I went to a club the other night and I was dancing with this guy.. He was really dirty dancing with me and he was kissing me.. He then later bought me a drink and we kinda talked. However, it was kinda hard to talk in a club.. .at the end , i asked him if he wanted my number.. He said he would give me his.. So i got his and he ended up taking mine down.. Then i asked him if he wanted me to call him, and he said yes. I called him the next day.. woops. big mistake.. now im afraid i came off 2 desperate... that was 2 days ago and I havn't heard back from him.. Did that guy just pureely want a one night stand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): if you think that was desperate, why not go back and think that perhaps, kissing him without knowing him was not desperate. You need to know your boundaries, because guys will certainly respect that. He will call you, but only for booty call. sorry sister, but next time try getting his number first.
If you want him to call you back, play hard to get, he has your number, and if he wants to talk to you, he'll call if not sail your ship elsewhere as he is not that into you
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2007): yes, dont call him let him call you
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): who knows, dont concern yourself with it too much, the turth is only he knows, he did not get back for some reason. Let it lye and move on
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reader, shania  +, writes (11 January 2006):
 I think if a fella calls you within 3 days then he is keen,if he doesnt bother calling you then he is not too bothered.Now you called him the next day,ok thats no big deal,did he seem interested? or was it all you doing the talking? If that was me and i made it clear that i wanted to see this guy again and he decided to not call me back then shrug your shoulders and put it down to experience.
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reader, communicatrix +, writes (11 January 2006):
 Okay. Here's a really craaaazy question: what did *you* want from this encounter?
You mentioned that it got hot and heavy, you said that the club wasn't conducive to talking. Are you thinking that there was some kind of love connection? And if so, how?
I'm not saying you can't meet a terrific guy in a club and hit it off and fall in love and end up with a long, happy life together. The odds aren't great, but it's not impossible.
But when there's been no connection other than a little sexy grinding AND you had to foist your number on him AND even when he had your number, he didn't call...well, I'm going to have to go with "no love connection."
As the previous poster commented, it's really no great loss if you back off and he doesn't call. The loss would be if you decided not to take away anything from the experience.
Men do tend to like a little bit of chase. It does tend to bode well for future developments (note: if you don't want those, be a brazen hussy and go for it!). Not always, but usually.
Live and learn. And get out there and do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): Screw it it is his loss if he doesn't call back. U must take into consideration that he may have had one too many drinks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2006): I don't think you appear desperate...he's assumming you would call him or he wouldn't of given you his phone #. If you hear back from him you definately know that he is interested!
Just relax and see if he calls you. Let him pursue you..Men just looove the chase!
If not..Oh well his loss hun! Plenty of fish in the sea!
Good Luck!
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