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writes:I have begun to use online dating again and It seems like every time I meet a guy I get attached to quickly. The last guy even lead me on so much to believe he was attached and really interested then told me out of nowhere I was too clingy and not to contact him. The thing is I contact the guys I meet when i feel like we have become friends the same amount as I would any other friend. So my question is How can I stop getting attached to guys so fast. Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
 I think your feeling that there aren't many people out there for you is part of the reason you get attached to the hope that a contact provides. Cast a wider search. You may have to open yourself up to the idea of relocation if there aren't options in your area. Small town life can be tough. There comes a point when everyone has dated everyone and nobody is happy. Maybe a bigger life change is in order for you to discover happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do try to spread my self out but I don't live in a large area and the guys very local aren't open to interracial dating. so the few guys i do meet i get attached to.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
It's part of your personality. It will be very difficult to change. I think it will matter less when you find the right guy though. Hopefully you'll find someone who appreciates the contact. There are definitely guys out there who will, just keep searching.
Maybe if you cast a wider net you won't get attached so much. Get in contact with multiple people, that way you can spread your attention.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 You obviously need to work on your self confidence and your independancy, maybe lay of the online dating for a while as a lot of people on this could be lying about everything including there sex and age. Start going out with your friends and meeting new guys your age, people that you can judge on face value. You need to let a guy chase you for a bit and not be so clingy get to know guys but let them make the first move believe me men like this a lot more than a girl that is asking them every 5 minutes what they are up to. Good Luck.
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