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male
age
36-40,
*razyinquiries
writes:I was recently on a popular online dating website. I had intended on leaving upon the expiration of my membership. Four days before expiration the customer service of the website contacted me to tell my that a past match wants to re-open communication. I vaguely remembered this match however after a peek at her profile, I remembered really liking her. I had tried messaging her but she had blocked me. So I opened the communication request. We exchanged the generic questions then communicated openly. We discovered that we go to the same school and in fact serve on a similar student committee but havent ever crossed paths physically as I dont go to meetings often. I even found emails from her in my email box but I wasnt aware this was her. As my subscription ended, she added me on facebook. I asked her that was quick as a joke. She said she wanted to see more pictures of me (as a joke), maybe not so much who knows. She told me I made her laugh more than anyone else on that dating website. Very recently we realized we have another committee meeting and we both knew we would be there. Eventually we ran into each other in the meeting, we both expected it to be awkward as we didnt want to reveal where we had met (dating website). Also, this was our first meeting ever. We pretended we didnt know each other. Talked all business no pleasure. Later that day, I came home to find a message from her on facebook asking me why I left the website. I was very blunt with her and said I didnt plan on continuing. I also told her what I was looking for, which is something straight forward and relaxed...not looking for one night stands or planning on giving a $10k ring on the first date. We exchanged a few messages that night about some school. She had asked me if I was attending some student event, I couldnt due to personal reasons. Then I sent her another message but have not heard back. It has been three days. What should I do? Continue waiting or message her or poke her? I really like this girl as she is attractive, intelligent and well rounded. Please advise, thanks.
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reader, crazyinquiries +, writes (18 March 2011):
crazyinquiries is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses.
k_c100: Hahaha good catch, I'm not based in the UK but when I created this account, I was in the UK now I'm back home. Also, she didnt block me, it was merely a "wink", she rejected it but changed her mind. I had not sent her an actual message at that point.
blonde30s: Weeks...really? I was hoping...NOW. :)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 March 2011):
 I think you should just ask her out - see if she replies, if she does then great, if she doesnt well thats your answer.
This whole relationship is bizarre anyway - putting aside the fact that you are in the UK yet talking about dollars (is this just a mistake?!) - she blocked you on the dating site? That is a massive red flag, clearly you did something to upset her or she simply was not interested the first time around hence why she blocked you. So I would be very wary of her interest in you, to block someone and then decide to re-open the communication indicates a girl with some issues, she is obviously indecisive, might have had a rejection from someone she likes hence went back to you as second best, indicates her character is flaky and she may potentially be playing games.
This girl definitely does not sound straight forward so if that is what you are looking for I would suggest you stay away from her!
But if you really like her then send her one last message - be honest with her and explain that you like her and would like to take her out and get to know each other better. If she still doesnt reply then at least you can be sure she is not interested in you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): You said to her you were looking for something straight forward and relaxed yet this all seems hesitant and a bit awkward. When she inquired about going to some event, this was your opening, as you could not go what was wrong with saying 'but lets meet up anyway' and arrange something. Sometimes you have to take a risk and go for it. Ask her out.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (18 March 2011):
Check if she is still active on her wall. If she does not show activity, do not worry, the problem is not about you. If she is active, I think you should say "hello?" in her wall. dont poke her, i think its better if ur comment is public.
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