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writes: hiya, i asked for a male friends number so i could thank that person for looking after my friends at a party while i was busy and my boyfriend has blown it out of portion saying its weird that i should ask for this guys number to thank him for being nice!? this is the most recent argument the first ones were that he didnt like me having male friends even though i have told him im not interested in them like that and since then he has concently been texting and phoning me and gets angry if i dont reply straight away even if im ill. and i was invited to a party tonight by the guy i asked the number of and he started another argument this guy by the way has a long term girlfriend and i think they have plans to get married and i think my boyfriend is annoyed that he has asked me to go to this party saying again its weird and that im acting like i have known him for ages which i have not but isnt that how u make friends going to parties etc?? am i right to want to dump him? or am i in the wrong? my boyfriend knows i love him but trust seems to be a 1 way thing what should i do? thanks x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): he loves you and is worried that you have wondering eyes for some one else and proberly thinks that you are getting bored of him and your wanting to go out and date other men, what you should do is leave your fone out and let him see the inocent texts that the guy is giving you and then he'll proberly think, abd just give him a text now and then saying love you babes and what ever you say to your boyfriend, i dont think you should dump him that would just brake both of your hearts. What would you think but if he was asking for girls number?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx that advice is really helpful thanx so much x x x
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reader, theskycastle +, writes (1 September 2006):
 Yes, guys do get jealous about their girlfriend going out and spending time with another guy. But girls do the same thing as well. Therefore, we really can't blame them. I honestly think it's absolutely fine to have male friends. Although, spending time one on one, or talking on the phone for a few hours will definitely worry your boyfriend. He really should respect and trust you. But you shouldn't make your social life suspicious either. With the constant texting you and calling you, I hope he is doing it because he misses you and wanting to hear your voice. Getting angry at you can never be justified. Trust seems to be a real issue between you two. Maybe you should consider going to parties together so he can see and feel you guys are a couple, and not just individuals open for flirt. That's probably the best way to make him trust you. Oh, and remember a good relationship requires both member to sacrifice something. If you do not want to sacrifice for him, maybe he's not the right guy for you.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 This guy is very insecure and is putting these problems onto you. He doesn't trust you because he has problems with himself and these need sorting out before he can have a proper successful relationship.
Don't allow him to control what you do. I think you need to talk to him and, if he refuses to get help and accept the blame for this, you do need to move on from him. Girls are allowed to hang around with guys and go to parties with guys whenever they want.
My boyfriend was a bit like this at first, but I soon let him know that I'll talk to and hang around with whoever I want and I don't have to justify that to him. Let him know this, and maybe suggest he gets a bit of counselling to get to the bottom of his problems.
If not, just get rid and move on, honey. People like this try to control others because they feel they can't control their own lives and you don't need to waste time on him anymore. You are your own person and can choose what you do, good luck.
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