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*oss's wife
writes:My husband and I run a small tour company...we have 10 employees. One of our employees lives pretty far away so when he has to work weekends he sometimes stays at our house.Last night we had a party and he agreed to help out with the cleaning up and being the barman etc. The party went on pretty late, everyone had a lot to drink and my husband fell asleep.All of a sudden towards the end of the party he corners me and tries to kiss me! I was so surprised I actually let him for a moment, but then pulled away.We still had guests so I wasn't able to talk to him about it at the time and he left for work with my husband really early this morning.Now I will have to face him at the office and I have no idea what to say to him! The thing is he is 10 years younger than me and very attractive. In fact I have been attracted to him for a long while but would never do anything about it as I love my husband. I'm worried that maybe I was giving off signals that told him I wanted him to kiss me.I obviously can't say anything to my husband as he would fire him immediately, but I really don't know what to do?? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): You pay a compliment by uttering words, not kissing someone.
And you can't shift all the blame onto the other man, he kissed you, you returned it, after obviously giving him signals that you were interested.
You're in a marriage, this excuse of oh it's nice to feel wanted or complimented doesn't lead to kissing does it?
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (13 January 2013):
 Tell your husband first and tell him you told the man you're not interested at all and you love him. Then, tell the man who kissed you that it was a bit of a shock, you're not interested and you love your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2013): You love your husband and never do anything about it? You let him kiss you. You've obviously made it known you are attracted to him, don't be naive, you know what you are doing, this man saw an opportunity with your husband out of the way and went for it.
I'd also be worried that you seem to be more concerned about the guy's job than your marriage. Big red flag.
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reader, Boss's wife +, writes (13 January 2013):
Boss's wife is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the advice. Most of you are saying I should tell my husband but there is a real risk that not only would he fire the guy but seriously hurt him too! The employee is a good worker, just not very smart, in fact my husband is always telling him off for not using his head before he acts and I think this is just a prime example of this. Also, I have to admit to myself that I am flattered. Whilst I absolutely don't want this to continue, with a husband, two small kids and around 20lbs of extra baggage it IS nice to know that someone other than my husband is attracted to me, particularly a cute younger guy. I find it hard to punished someone who has just risked his job and probably his health to pay me a compliment.On the other hand he has disrespected my husband; his boss and the man who has really taken him under his wing and treated him like family.WHat I think I really want to do is find a way to let this guy know in no uncertain terms that this cannot happen again, and that he needs to stay away from our house in future.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 January 2013):
 Tell your husband. If you don't then you are indeed giving the wrong signals to that younger guy that kissing you is okay. Let your husband be the man and handle it. Ask your husband to give him another chance, like a warning since he was drunk. Your husband should know because next time he will disinvite him to the party if he's not fired. You both have attraction together so if you don't do anything this dalliance will continue until you do something you will regret later. Your husband's feelings are more important than this underlings' job. Sorry it has to be this way and this younger guy should know better. You should never have employees who are sneaky and disrespectful to the boss.
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