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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 13 month. We had a break up three months ago that lasted two months. He came back to me. Since then he is very distant sometimes and others not. One day he seems to want a relationship and the next not. What is this about?
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reader, Paladin +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Clearly he is confused about something and maybe you two rushed back together. You may need to separate again and see what happens but before I would do that I would try and talk this out. The touchy part here is that he might get on the defensive when you approach him with this. I suggest you start by telling him that you care about him and his happiness and that if there is something bothering him you would like to help him through it even if it means losing him. From there he might open up and tell you something you didn't expect. Like, maybe he is having some severe problems at work and that is what is affecting him. His distance at times may be something that has nothing to do with you personally. The fact is something is troubling him and hopefully you can get him to talk about it.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (22 March 2008):
 He doesn't know what he wants. Only he can tell you what is going on in his head. But for certain, he does want you but something is holding him back. It would have been better if he hadn't come back to you until he knew what he wanted. He's kind of left you to be the one in search of answers.
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