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writes:So i'm in a little bit of a pickle. I am nearly 17 years old in July and i need support on an idea/decision i have made.I have been friends with my "online friends" for about 2 years. I live in Scotland, "tamara" lives in London and "Suzi" lives in Germany. Tamara and Suzi have been friends longer than i have known them and have met a few times over summers etc. I always excepted their relationship as i have always been very close with Suzi's younger brother "Matthew". Suzi was always fine with this, she really liked this as it brought us all closer together.I am not a girl with many friends and always seem a bit of a loner except with the people who are closest to me and know me the best(my bf and my best friend where i live). So when 2 months ago Suzi decided to cut contact with me. It is unsure why this has happened and it caused a lot of upset to me and Matthew. I have tried to "mend" the friendship but it seems as i have to move on after really seeing them as my very closest friends and speaking to them everyday.I do still speak to Matthew and i wonder if this is normal? It was planned for me to go to Germany when i turn 18 next year to spend a few weeks of summer with them. Is this right to still do so?Because of losing them i have felt very alone as they were a big part of my life and would speak on the phone and skype etc. However, an old friend from my old school(i moved when i was 12 ish) is moving near to me and i am feeling that i should concentrate on our re-connected friendship and move on from Suzi and Tamara.I feel very alone and that noone really cares. Of course i hide this well in the "real world" as i don't like being seen as upset as in my mind it pushes people away from wanting to talk.My lack of friends where i live is due to drugs, alcohol which i dont want to be a part of and sadly is a big part of life where i live and at this age.I hold on thinking this is my last year of high school then i have university where i will find true friends. But still, its hard and has been for a while now on my own. Thank you so much if you have even bother to read all of this. I appreciate all help :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): Hey, how old are Suzi, Tamara and Matthew ? What ever, I think you should not go to see Matthew because that would cause trouble between him and his sister. Maybe you should think about giving up the friendship with Matthew. See, I do not want to be nasty but if you are not going to see him anyway then it won't make sense anyway! And online friendship are not for long mostly.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Well I'm not sure if it would be a good idea to visit when Suzi has cut off contact with you, as much as it would be nice for you to see Matthew it would be very awkward with Suzi in her own home, so I dont think it would be right.
Has Matthew tried asking Suzi why she has suddenly stopped talking to you? Unless he can talk to her and find out what is going on then I'm afraid you might have to give up on the idea of going to Germany.
Is there any way that Matthew could come across and visit you? Or could you plan a trip just the 2 of you somewhere, maybe going to London for a weekend, or somewhere else in Europe for the weekend?
Try and keep your chin up, if Suzi can be so fickle as to stop talking to you all of a sudden she is not a real friend anyway. You have an old friend moving back home so that is good news, hopefully she/he is more similar to you in terms of interests and wont want to get involved in all the drugs and alcohol.
Teenage years are tough, I remember all too well. But I promise once you get to Uni life does get a lot better and is a lot more fun! Then again, Uni is a lot about going out clubbing and getting a bit drunk, so be prepared for that too. But you dont have to drink when you are out, and you can just laugh at your Uni mates acting silly when drunk!
Try and stay positive, dont let silly girls like Suzi get you down, you dont need people like that in your life anyway.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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