A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Right, first off just to make clear this is a question regarding relationships with friends! But hope you might be able to help all the same :)I've got a friend who is getting married soon. She was a friend from school, and so has invited my group of friends from school along to the wedding.I left school maybe 6 years ago now, have been to uni and started work etc since, and not spoken to most of the group of friends from school. While they were friends I always felt like I didn't quite fit in, and this was only reinforced when at uni I met a bunch of friends who I really felt were proper friends. So as a result I haven't spoken to several of my school friends since leaving school.Great chance to catch up you might say. However, I'm not sure if I see it that way. I feel that as I didn't quite fit in at the time, and we've no doubt all become very different people, it will just end up being very awkward, and maybe even unpleasant. I don't want to go to the wedding for that.Also there was one guy who had a bit of a mental break down and left school. Hes better now, and I'm pleased for him, and while it has been for years, but kind of freaked me out at the time and I haven't spoken to him since... even after all this time I'm not quite sure if I'm ready to face him either. Last thing I need is to start messing my head up by dragging up things that have happened in the past.I'm putting up a good case not to go. However I really don't want to annoy the person who is getting married! Plus if I don't go all of this sort of feelings may come out in the open and cause more trouble all round.Just wondering if anyone had any advice on my situation!Thanks a lot in advance :)
View related questions:
wedding Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Don't go. Just send flowers with a nice card.You are neither a relative nor a close friend, so you do not have any social obligations to be there . It would make sense for you to go if it were for your own pleasure and enjoyment, but, since this is not the case and since you are not that close to the bride at all, you can politely beg off.
|
