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anonymous
writes:Hey guys I really hope you can help me cause this is a bit complicated. I am 12 years old and I really like this girl I have known for years at one of my after-school programs. I have asked her out twice in the past 2 years and her answers were "we need to know each other better" and "I'm just not ready yet". Keep in mind that that was a while ago. Over this year I have really gotten to know her better and we are pretty good friends. We e-mail and text each other alot. Thing is, I really like her, but she alredy has a boyfriend. From what I have heard, they don't really do much except sit together at lunch and call eachother. I really need some help on getting her to like me. Not to original (the basic stuff) and nothing too awkward. I think I am going to invite her to my birthday party and I will buy a present for her that I know she will really like. She usually wants to do everything with me at our after-school program and she follows me around there alot. I think she likes me but im not sure if she "likes-likes" me. Please help! I will appreciate it soo much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): Like I said, you are only 12 years old, you don't need to be trying to "get" anyone. She has a boyfriend and all they do is text and call each other and sit together at lunch?
So this is a word play here, what are you to her then as you do about the same things with her already.
You two are friends, she's a girl, you are a boy, so that makes you a boy friend. Keep it simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009):
You are in "the friends zone". There is next to no way for you to come out.
By far the best thing for you to do would be to transfer your affections to another of your tiny tot friends.
If you want to try to get out the friends zone it will almost certainly fail, but the way to go is to change your whole vibe. Start ignoring her, get your parents to buy you a dirt bike and start dressing like a character from Twilight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk guys, this is the writer here. Do you think I should take it slow and steady cuz I have the rest of the year to ask her, or try to get her quickly?Be sure also to answer the main question I posted. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): You are 12 years old. Why don't you just tell her you like her and be her friend. Boyfriends and girlfriends at this age are kind of beside the point. It is great to have a lot of different girls for friends and it sounds like she already likes you to me.
Invite her to your birthday party but do not buy her a present. It is your birthday after all and she will just feel awkward that you got her something instead. Give her a party favor just like all of the rest of your guests.
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reader, Yeh  +, writes (23 October 2009):
Simple, she's just not into you.
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