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age
41-50,
*md1234
writes:Hello,I am in a (mostly) amazing relationship with someone I am truly in love with. We have been dating for over a year. In the beginning of our relationship, we had a lot of problems because of his previous girlfriend. They talked on the phone, emailed and texted a lot. We were just dating, and I wasn't aware of the full extent of the communication. He ended things completely with her back in January, and we have been dating seriously since February. My problem is this... he keeps in his night stand drawer a picture of the two of them, an old valentine's day card, and the birthday card that she recently sent him (it was extremely harmless, wishing him well). Meanwhile, the cards that I have given him, including his birthday card, are lost in a pile of paperwork somewhere. Am I being obsessive about this upsetting me? When we do talk about the past, both ours with how hurt and betrayed I was in the beginning of our relationship and also how he felt during and now looking back on his relationship with the ex, he reassures me that it's me that he loves and wants to be with. I still can't help but be upset about the hidden card/picture. Should I say something or get over it?Thanks!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 I would move the card and picture into the pile of papers where your cards are. If he really has been sneaky and "hidden" them so that he can look at them from time to time, he'll be aware that they are missing and ask about it. If he doesn't ask or they aren't back in the drawer, he's forgotten that they were ever there. If he eventually finds them in the stack of papers and asks how they got there, you have no idea. No harm, no foul. At least, you will find out your answer this way. Good Luck.
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